Last nite was emotional for me..
finally Obama proved he can and he did it..
when he won PA and Ohio and they showed kenya and people there eagerly waiting for results I cried..
I read both obamas books and his book "Dreams from my father" touched my soul..Having lost my dad, staying away from home for years and years I can understand what obama went through growing up without a dad, living with grandparents, coming from poor family.. Obamas journey is an inspiration and he should be proud of what he became..
wish his grandmother was alive for just one more day to see this great day..
I cannot vote but I campaigned a little bit for obama because his story struck a chord with me..His idealism, his political ideology, his plans on education and healthcare etc., resonate with what I feel..Iam not a democrat or a republican as I think Iam a long way to understanding the US political system but I liked obama..
Iam glad he made history and what an amazing campaign it was. some of my friends campaigned too and just the campaign he put up, the amount of money he raised, how he ran for his presidency, how he handled himself in presidential debates, the story of his life, the way he sees the world tell a lot about the man..Iam sure he will make a good president..
Hope he gets time to rest a lil bit, catch his breath and takes care of his health and gets to spend some goodtime with his two cute young daughters before he starts working hard again..what a battle what a victory..
this economic meltdown worked good for obama..and all the endorsements he got at the right time helped him too..it was his destiny to be the president and all the cards fell in place..he is born to be a great man...
mccain gave avery graceful speech too.. I admire mccain too for fighting for the country but his choice of VP, bad campaign decisions, lack of proper plan for a economically beaten country, age, lack of good campaign strategy cost him big..
whatever it is glad it is over and it ended well.
my days last three months were consumed in following politics and elections..
finally I will have more free time..
whatelse..life is keeping me busy..
work keeps me busy five days a week, volunteering or preparing for a month long India trip is keeping me busy with somuch traveling planned through Italy and India..I still did not find a furnished apartment to stay in India, still so much to do..Iam going home to India but have no home..Irony of life is for people like me living in two countries, loving both countries has made life harder..
I am neither there or here.. when Iam here in US I miss India and family...when Iam there in India I miss US and friends..nostalgic life either way..staying in apartments both places..there is no place called home or I have two temporary homes..thats life..
taxes to do in India and US, business to take care of in India and in US, apartments to take care of in India and US, family in India and US..life is just more richer, more diversified and I have one foot here in this continent in US and other in Asia in India.. I manage to stand on both which is amazing...
so much to do in India too..
I have to learn so much about indian tax system in the next two weeks before I go..
I have to book an apartment for a month in India
I have to book pooja at tirupathi temple which is busy and booked until 2025..
Ihave to plan business trips and meetings in India..
so much to do as usual.
I barely get time to read any books..
Diwali was fun..I volunteered at the temple all day saturday and helped cook food for 250 people which was fun..
finished Aravind adigas booker novel which I thoroughly enjoyed..
reading Junot diazs booker novel on oscar wao life right now..
Also reading chetan bhagats one nite at call center..
3 more weeks of work and then vacation time and trip to India...
little nephews in India waiting, nieces waiting, big extended family to spend time with, elderly aunties and uncles to see..business to take care of , taxes to do in India life goes on..
there is always something to do..
new year is coming with a new president, new life and hopefully some love and soulmate for me...
have to see how fate and life unfolds as the new year arrives..
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
diwali memories , this and that..
Finally Diwali is here..
miss the fireworks, authentic indian sweets, rangoli, new clothes, goodtimes with family...
when I was kid diwali was a such a big hangama with granny, mom,dad around. the nite before huge hangama with rangoli with all girls in the neighbourhood..morning granny would apply oil to our hair and wash our hairs, then new clothes, pooja, eloborate five course lunch, then busy early evenings decorating all the house and walls outside with diyas , then bursting fireworks, eating sweets and ending the nite with smiles.
As I grew up a lil bit, it was just mom, dad, me and sis..it was quieter times..no hungama...new clothes, good lunch, pooja, lesss fireworks, sweet and sleep..best part was early evening decorating the house I grew up in with diyas..
Now last few years after dad passed away, we sold our home in small town, it is much quieter...no proper home or walls to decorate diyas...no proper family it is just me and mom hanging out with aunts or cousins at their places celebrating diwali..
ofcourse most of the last 12 years diwali is here in US..sometimes it is just another ordinary day..sometimes like this year it will be a lil bit lively pooja at a friends place, then pooja at temple and fireworks at temple thanks to the temple..Nov1st I am volunteering to cook at temple as a part of diwali celebrations so it is going to be ok diwali..
life goes on..
as we age things change..
but I cannot wait to find a nice traditional boy, get married, start my own family, celebrate diwali with my kids and hubby and family, have a own house..restarting the tradition all over again.. cycles of life.
what else.
I read Aravind adigas novel white tiger..
mighty impressed.. Adigas novel is realistic down to earth simple well told sensitive story of a car driver..very well written, very fine details of everyday existance of poor and rich, corruption and politics in India..great novel to read on modern India, richly deserves a booker..
what else.
Iam busy planning my India trip..got my italian visa too..busy with travel plans, shopping for nephews and nieces.. waiting for much awaitied vacation..
Iam so glad to go home to visit my family after 2years of being away from them..life is hard specially if u are working girl...out of 600 days in two years I get 30 days with family..rest is all waiting for those 30 days...
life has been busy otherwise too..
my dads third death anniversary was last week. so I did the traditional karma pooja at the temple who says girls cannot do it..priest helped me do it north indian punjabi style as he knew only that way and it was good...it was a week of nostalgia, melancholy, philosophical..some people can never be replaced in life..it is a hole in the heart and you just learn to live with it..
week ahead looks busy with work
weekend of volunteering, shopping for india trip..life goes on..
so much to do as usual..
miss the fireworks, authentic indian sweets, rangoli, new clothes, goodtimes with family...
when I was kid diwali was a such a big hangama with granny, mom,dad around. the nite before huge hangama with rangoli with all girls in the neighbourhood..morning granny would apply oil to our hair and wash our hairs, then new clothes, pooja, eloborate five course lunch, then busy early evenings decorating all the house and walls outside with diyas , then bursting fireworks, eating sweets and ending the nite with smiles.
As I grew up a lil bit, it was just mom, dad, me and sis..it was quieter times..no hungama...new clothes, good lunch, pooja, lesss fireworks, sweet and sleep..best part was early evening decorating the house I grew up in with diyas..
Now last few years after dad passed away, we sold our home in small town, it is much quieter...no proper home or walls to decorate diyas...no proper family it is just me and mom hanging out with aunts or cousins at their places celebrating diwali..
ofcourse most of the last 12 years diwali is here in US..sometimes it is just another ordinary day..sometimes like this year it will be a lil bit lively pooja at a friends place, then pooja at temple and fireworks at temple thanks to the temple..Nov1st I am volunteering to cook at temple as a part of diwali celebrations so it is going to be ok diwali..
life goes on..
as we age things change..
but I cannot wait to find a nice traditional boy, get married, start my own family, celebrate diwali with my kids and hubby and family, have a own house..restarting the tradition all over again.. cycles of life.
what else.
I read Aravind adigas novel white tiger..
mighty impressed.. Adigas novel is realistic down to earth simple well told sensitive story of a car driver..very well written, very fine details of everyday existance of poor and rich, corruption and politics in India..great novel to read on modern India, richly deserves a booker..
what else.
Iam busy planning my India trip..got my italian visa too..busy with travel plans, shopping for nephews and nieces.. waiting for much awaitied vacation..
Iam so glad to go home to visit my family after 2years of being away from them..life is hard specially if u are working girl...out of 600 days in two years I get 30 days with family..rest is all waiting for those 30 days...
life has been busy otherwise too..
my dads third death anniversary was last week. so I did the traditional karma pooja at the temple who says girls cannot do it..priest helped me do it north indian punjabi style as he knew only that way and it was good...it was a week of nostalgia, melancholy, philosophical..some people can never be replaced in life..it is a hole in the heart and you just learn to live with it..
week ahead looks busy with work
weekend of volunteering, shopping for india trip..life goes on..
so much to do as usual..
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
topsyturvy world...
After a long time, news that excited me was Aravind Adiga winning booker..
kiran Desai writes about globalized modern india and gets a booker
Aravind Adiga writes about todays India of corrupt politics and reality and gets a booker..
so there u go...now u know what gets u a booker...
Iam glad they both won bookers writing about India..
I just started reading Adigas white tiger and can see why it won the coveted prize..like kiran desai he deserves his win...good writing..
what else..
Economy and its downward spiral is just unbelievable. I cannot even figure out why they waited until the 700 billion collapse happened. I cannot even understand why they did not stop and investigate when they lost the first billion..unbelievable times..
Being a girl probably, I was never interested in learning about world economy or investing or money market..it is like not having that much interest in electronic gadjets or sports..it was not a girl thing for some reason for a long time for me..
This month the economy fluctuations changed me..
I kept busy educating myself about stocks, investing, understanding the loss of money last few weeks, I never was interested in economy or stocks or investing or money market before, but now Iam keen on understanding the system, which is going to affect all of us not only now but in the years to come..
how could they give loans to people who cannot afford?
how did they let the housing market drop down so bad?
How did they end up spending so much money on iraq war?
how did they not see this collapse a year ahead with all the intelligence and sources?
all this is a mystery for me..
I used to think that economist and business people here are the smartest in the world , apperently not now..
may be everyone should read future shock and prepare for future..
anticipating tomorrows needs and tomorrow world and economic market is so so important..too bad they waited so long to realise who bad the state of affairs is..
too bad..
Politics was also not my thing..I used to think once upon a time that following politics or politicians is a total waste of time..
Iam also following US politics as never before..this presidential race has been the most interesting political race for me so far...It matters whom we elect though I cannot vote in US right now, for some reason it matters a lot..
tonites debate is going to be interesting..mccain vs obama..now that palin factor faded and is more controversial may be people will get into the reality of the candidates and their philosophies of how they will run the country...who ever wins is going to have a hard time no matter what with this economy..
from health care to economy to education this election and the opinions of both candidates matters a lot..those who can vote should pay attentiont to these candidates and vote..it is probably the most important election in recent times considering how volatile the world and the economy is..
And equally as the presidential debates I am enjoying watching saturday nite live as never before...it is as if within the last two months the things I do, the stuff I watch on tv changed drastically..now Iam hooked on to debates, news, night line, saturday nite live, anything that comes on economy, politics...
cant believe it..
my life changed otherwise too last two months..
been busy working nonstop..did not take any vacation this year so far saving it all for my india trip to go home..so tired and exhausted..
gave up volunteering and all social activities for these last four months of the year as I needed some time for myself..
Iam busy learning about economy, stocks, travel, politics etc.,
Did spend sometime in dussehra festivities...cooking,cleaning, groceries and chores taking away the rest of the time that I have...
my life has been so busy too planning to long trip to India this year end and getting visas to a couple of other countries that I dont have that much time now a days to volunteer or do anything else..
books I read
The brief wondorous life of oscar wao - junot diaz which has been a very interesting read..
movies I saw
mostly travel videos of europe and asia which are fun to watch..one of the interesting movie I watched was himalaya about nepalese old man who travels all the way through mountains and snow with his grandson to sell salt and for just a morsel of food..
travel videos make me realise how different life is in different countries..
life is going on..as usual same routine single working girls life...
God knows when my single life will end and when I get to share this beautiful life with someone special but until then Iam glad to go home for a month, finally forget this topsyturvy world and spend time with nephews , nieces, family, friends in India before I get back to this race again in jan next year..
kiran Desai writes about globalized modern india and gets a booker
Aravind Adiga writes about todays India of corrupt politics and reality and gets a booker..
so there u go...now u know what gets u a booker...
Iam glad they both won bookers writing about India..
I just started reading Adigas white tiger and can see why it won the coveted prize..like kiran desai he deserves his win...good writing..
what else..
Economy and its downward spiral is just unbelievable. I cannot even figure out why they waited until the 700 billion collapse happened. I cannot even understand why they did not stop and investigate when they lost the first billion..unbelievable times..
Being a girl probably, I was never interested in learning about world economy or investing or money market..it is like not having that much interest in electronic gadjets or sports..it was not a girl thing for some reason for a long time for me..
This month the economy fluctuations changed me..
I kept busy educating myself about stocks, investing, understanding the loss of money last few weeks, I never was interested in economy or stocks or investing or money market before, but now Iam keen on understanding the system, which is going to affect all of us not only now but in the years to come..
how could they give loans to people who cannot afford?
how did they let the housing market drop down so bad?
How did they end up spending so much money on iraq war?
how did they not see this collapse a year ahead with all the intelligence and sources?
all this is a mystery for me..
I used to think that economist and business people here are the smartest in the world , apperently not now..
may be everyone should read future shock and prepare for future..
anticipating tomorrows needs and tomorrow world and economic market is so so important..too bad they waited so long to realise who bad the state of affairs is..
too bad..
Politics was also not my thing..I used to think once upon a time that following politics or politicians is a total waste of time..
Iam also following US politics as never before..this presidential race has been the most interesting political race for me so far...It matters whom we elect though I cannot vote in US right now, for some reason it matters a lot..
tonites debate is going to be interesting..mccain vs obama..now that palin factor faded and is more controversial may be people will get into the reality of the candidates and their philosophies of how they will run the country...who ever wins is going to have a hard time no matter what with this economy..
from health care to economy to education this election and the opinions of both candidates matters a lot..those who can vote should pay attentiont to these candidates and vote..it is probably the most important election in recent times considering how volatile the world and the economy is..
And equally as the presidential debates I am enjoying watching saturday nite live as never before...it is as if within the last two months the things I do, the stuff I watch on tv changed drastically..now Iam hooked on to debates, news, night line, saturday nite live, anything that comes on economy, politics...
cant believe it..
my life changed otherwise too last two months..
been busy working nonstop..did not take any vacation this year so far saving it all for my india trip to go home..so tired and exhausted..
gave up volunteering and all social activities for these last four months of the year as I needed some time for myself..
Iam busy learning about economy, stocks, travel, politics etc.,
Did spend sometime in dussehra festivities...cooking,cleaning, groceries and chores taking away the rest of the time that I have...
my life has been so busy too planning to long trip to India this year end and getting visas to a couple of other countries that I dont have that much time now a days to volunteer or do anything else..
books I read
The brief wondorous life of oscar wao - junot diaz which has been a very interesting read..
movies I saw
mostly travel videos of europe and asia which are fun to watch..one of the interesting movie I watched was himalaya about nepalese old man who travels all the way through mountains and snow with his grandson to sell salt and for just a morsel of food..
travel videos make me realise how different life is in different countries..
life is going on..as usual same routine single working girls life...
God knows when my single life will end and when I get to share this beautiful life with someone special but until then Iam glad to go home for a month, finally forget this topsyturvy world and spend time with nephews , nieces, family, friends in India before I get back to this race again in jan next year..
Monday, September 15, 2008
country concert, good books...this week..
News that caught my attention..
sad about Delhi blasts...The world is no longer a safe place...and normal innocent people who didnot harm get hurt.. sad state of affairs in the world..
Economy in US another sad state of affairs...stock markets, rising prices, floods, storms...what is happening? Alvin tofflers future shock is right here..things spinning beyond control..
Sarah palin factor in US elections...Her interview with charles Gibson was bad yet people are supporting her...where is the country headed? seems like race is not about presidents or presidential merits anymore..it is VPs who influence..too bad..too sad..
Georgia to Darfur...problems everywhere... Ike to katrina never ending disasters...then man made troubles with blasts in India and everywhere.. the world seems to spin beyond control..power struggles..Iam reminded more often of Alvin Tofflfers war antiwar, towards a new civilization power shift culture..
I have to admit like everyone else Iam also in future shock...unprepared for future, silent resignition towards tomorrows, strangely helpless despite being educated and smart...not knowing how we can change the system and the world..
Gandhism and non voilence will it work?
Or Bushs doctrine will it work?
a combination of both or all..
someone needs to change the system..clean up this world..
is it younger generation or older generation..
who will suffer more..
No social security, no pension, no security no medical insurance elder generation who worked hard left with no solutions.
Or bad economy, high costs, no jobs, no education or opportunities younger generation left in a mess with no solutions..
both suffer their own way..
have to see how this govt. and the coming govt. handles all this..
what else..
went for a country music concert this weekend..Kenny chesney, keith urban, leane rhymes, Gary Allen all sang..
Keith urban was the best , man he knows how to play guitar and sing so well. he sang my fav. songs. whether its raining on sunday
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxDuckV7IAY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fy91mHAPpE
kenny chesney was just ok, cant sing really well, though Iam a big fan of his lyrics than singing, has a 2 year old kid on stage until 12 in the nite with beer commercials all nite for 60,000 audience...If he can get that much audience wont u assume he will put up some nice educational messages and guide america in a good direction.. but no nothing of that sort it was all business....it is all commercial..come on kenny make a difference do something good for community, dont advertise beer..do something good man for the community.. Also dont make concerts 8 hour long..it gets tiring man,...
he sang these 3 fav songs of mine
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbMoFYtZ6o8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OpPJEj8Uj-s
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I2DSF8KtTso
Gary Allen was ok..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rULQNIEX_6k
leane rimes sang well too. she has a good voice..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UmF3iRrkU4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B4QkSa2-oX8
what else..
Iam reading this very interesting novel
"The Brief wondorous life of oscar wao" by Junot Diaz
http://www.amazon.com/Brief-Wondrous-Life-Oscar-Wao/dp/1594489580
thanks to MV for introducing me to yet another new writer.. I have to say Iam thoroughly enjoying reading this novel.. It was amazingly real, touching, unique story of a unique race..Iam amazed that a male writer can write with such sensitivity and raw..it was very real, very human..He richly deserves the pulitizer or booker he won last year..I think after a long long time Iam reading a real good one.. I think Iam adding Junot Diaz to the list of my fav. writers..
Iam also reading
one night at call center by chetan bhagat which is a barely ok read.
The calcutta chromosome by Amitav ghosh which I need to start reading this week.
it feels so good to get back to books and reading...
I love lazy sundays where I can just drink a cup of morning elachi chai and have a parantha or idli for breakfast and keep reading until sunsets..
I can just read all week long if I had time..work keeps me busy 5 days a week..
volunteering and household chores keeps me busy on weekends..
what else..
volunteered at temple and cooked for 50 people this weekend.
went for a country concert
cooked dosakaya tomato daal, dosakaya curry and make even chutney out of dosakaya.. nice home cooked meal with achaar nothing beats that..
next weekend again Iam organizing a walk for a cause...after that finally Iam done with the volunteering for this year.
I quit the indian group and quit being chair of volunteer group and quit as chair of the indian cultural event I was supposed to organize...Iam so so glad I did it..it was a waste of time for me organizing with a group of people with too much politics going on..I prefer volunteering by myself without much fuss.. sometimes people make so much noise and talk but dont do any work..half the people are like that..iam the one who prefers to do less talk and do work..I pray i get a hubby also like that..most people I meet are so self centred they have nothing much to give to anyone, so lost in their self indugent world.I love Aynrand but dont like her virtue of selfishness..I like people who silently do everything in action than talk too much..unfortunately have the indian crowd do too much talk and no work..probably this is pretty common with all countries and all cultures..
less volunteering more reading, writing, and planning for my big year end India trip from now on...
I hope I can find a great guy in US before november and happily get married in december when I go to India..wishful thinking..
miles to go before I sleep..miles to go before I sleep...and too many promises to keep too..
sad about Delhi blasts...The world is no longer a safe place...and normal innocent people who didnot harm get hurt.. sad state of affairs in the world..
Economy in US another sad state of affairs...stock markets, rising prices, floods, storms...what is happening? Alvin tofflers future shock is right here..things spinning beyond control..
Sarah palin factor in US elections...Her interview with charles Gibson was bad yet people are supporting her...where is the country headed? seems like race is not about presidents or presidential merits anymore..it is VPs who influence..too bad..too sad..
Georgia to Darfur...problems everywhere... Ike to katrina never ending disasters...then man made troubles with blasts in India and everywhere.. the world seems to spin beyond control..power struggles..Iam reminded more often of Alvin Tofflfers war antiwar, towards a new civilization power shift culture..
I have to admit like everyone else Iam also in future shock...unprepared for future, silent resignition towards tomorrows, strangely helpless despite being educated and smart...not knowing how we can change the system and the world..
Gandhism and non voilence will it work?
Or Bushs doctrine will it work?
a combination of both or all..
someone needs to change the system..clean up this world..
is it younger generation or older generation..
who will suffer more..
No social security, no pension, no security no medical insurance elder generation who worked hard left with no solutions.
Or bad economy, high costs, no jobs, no education or opportunities younger generation left in a mess with no solutions..
both suffer their own way..
have to see how this govt. and the coming govt. handles all this..
what else..
went for a country music concert this weekend..Kenny chesney, keith urban, leane rhymes, Gary Allen all sang..
Keith urban was the best , man he knows how to play guitar and sing so well. he sang my fav. songs. whether its raining on sunday
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxDuckV7IAY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fy91mHAPpE
kenny chesney was just ok, cant sing really well, though Iam a big fan of his lyrics than singing, has a 2 year old kid on stage until 12 in the nite with beer commercials all nite for 60,000 audience...If he can get that much audience wont u assume he will put up some nice educational messages and guide america in a good direction.. but no nothing of that sort it was all business....it is all commercial..come on kenny make a difference do something good for community, dont advertise beer..do something good man for the community.. Also dont make concerts 8 hour long..it gets tiring man,...
he sang these 3 fav songs of mine
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbMoFYtZ6o8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OpPJEj8Uj-s
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I2DSF8KtTso
Gary Allen was ok..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rULQNIEX_6k
leane rimes sang well too. she has a good voice..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UmF3iRrkU4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B4QkSa2-oX8
what else..
Iam reading this very interesting novel
"The Brief wondorous life of oscar wao" by Junot Diaz
http://www.amazon.com/Brief-Wondrous-Life-Oscar-Wao/dp/1594489580
thanks to MV for introducing me to yet another new writer.. I have to say Iam thoroughly enjoying reading this novel.. It was amazingly real, touching, unique story of a unique race..Iam amazed that a male writer can write with such sensitivity and raw..it was very real, very human..He richly deserves the pulitizer or booker he won last year..I think after a long long time Iam reading a real good one.. I think Iam adding Junot Diaz to the list of my fav. writers..
Iam also reading
one night at call center by chetan bhagat which is a barely ok read.
The calcutta chromosome by Amitav ghosh which I need to start reading this week.
it feels so good to get back to books and reading...
I love lazy sundays where I can just drink a cup of morning elachi chai and have a parantha or idli for breakfast and keep reading until sunsets..
I can just read all week long if I had time..work keeps me busy 5 days a week..
volunteering and household chores keeps me busy on weekends..
what else..
volunteered at temple and cooked for 50 people this weekend.
went for a country concert
cooked dosakaya tomato daal, dosakaya curry and make even chutney out of dosakaya.. nice home cooked meal with achaar nothing beats that..
next weekend again Iam organizing a walk for a cause...after that finally Iam done with the volunteering for this year.
I quit the indian group and quit being chair of volunteer group and quit as chair of the indian cultural event I was supposed to organize...Iam so so glad I did it..it was a waste of time for me organizing with a group of people with too much politics going on..I prefer volunteering by myself without much fuss.. sometimes people make so much noise and talk but dont do any work..half the people are like that..iam the one who prefers to do less talk and do work..I pray i get a hubby also like that..most people I meet are so self centred they have nothing much to give to anyone, so lost in their self indugent world.I love Aynrand but dont like her virtue of selfishness..I like people who silently do everything in action than talk too much..unfortunately have the indian crowd do too much talk and no work..probably this is pretty common with all countries and all cultures..
less volunteering more reading, writing, and planning for my big year end India trip from now on...
I hope I can find a great guy in US before november and happily get married in december when I go to India..wishful thinking..
miles to go before I sleep..miles to go before I sleep...and too many promises to keep too..
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
this and that..
Interesting news Mccain leading obama...may be he made a clever choice choosing sarah palin who seems to draw women and young men alike..Now mccain is copying obamas change slogan..its all politics..
Obama seems to be lost in his own inspiring speeches..may be people need to know what he really achieved last few years..Biden has long political career but I dont think I know all about his achievements..sometimes u need to market urself well..obama and biden need to shake their campaign and step up.. Biden is good choice but if it was Hillary probably he could draw women voters... Iam going to campaign for obama next few weeks if I can..
I thoroughly enjoyed watching democratic convention and republic conventions..
I had high fever for a couple of days but these conventations made me forget about my sickness last two weeks.. moral of the story If you have things that interest u , they make u forget ur pains...
I also enjoyed watching olympics and almost developed a mini crush on micheal phelps..swimming, gymnastics (Raj participating in it and winning a medal finally) interested me..
bookers prize short list has aravind adigas novel and amitav ghoshs novel - good for indians..
Iam glad there are more new good indian writers coming up..the next rushdie generation..good for readers like me..
what else..
went for a nice indian classical dance show which was beautiful and made me all nostalgic
went for circus which was nice with amazing acrobats which made me sad for animals at the circus
went for a ballet and free style dance on dreams with just music and no songs which was interesting
went for indian independence day celebrations in indy which went well
celebrated varalakshmi pooja and Ganesh pooja at home last 3 weeks and made dahi vada,jelebi, dalvada, vada and indian rice pudding at home to offer to god which came out ok..
Most of my weekdays are busy with work. too much stuff to do as usual..
Most of my weekends last 2 months just slipped away , I volunteered almost every weekend last 2 months.. temple, running 5 bone marrow drives, food drives for salvation army I barely have time for myself..
Next two months look busy too I have a huge indian cultural event Iam chairing I need to organize, I have a walk Iam chairing I need to organize..so my weekends are pretty much gone..
books I tried to read:
one night at the call center by chetan bhagat which I started reading
finally finished Salman Rushdie's Enchantress which was a pretty confusing read..not a great novel but a ok time pass read..
Brief wondorous life of oscar wao by Junor Diaz which Iam enjoying reading
Aravind Adigas novel the white tiger
Movies I watched:
Outsourced - About an american who goes to India to train indians, very interesting movie on outsourcing. cultural differences, outlook, experiences very unique view
bachna eh haseenon- ok time pass Ranbir is ok deepika looks alright, rest of the girls look too old for Ranbir.
god tusse great ho - remake of Bruce almighty another mediocre film
kismat konnection - totally boring waste of time
Singh is king- which was mediocre
Jaane to na jaane -which was also mediocre
Mansaara kanavu- with kajol aravind swami - my kinda girl and movie great songs music by ARRahman
Dil se - maniratnam sharukh manisha koirala movie - excellent movie with good songs, story, direction
krishna telugu movie trisha - just time pass
what else
next few weeks more volunteering, busy work schedules, more indian events to organize..
no time for resting, relaxing, no time for guys or friends in life. single busy working girls life who volunteers all the time..my life is becoming like the girl in movie "Amelie" or the girl in movie "Mansara kanavu or priety zintas life in movie kal ho na ho..serious studious girls life..life goes on...
my india trip end of the year is coming soon..
so much to do as usual...no time to rest or relax as usual..
Obama seems to be lost in his own inspiring speeches..may be people need to know what he really achieved last few years..Biden has long political career but I dont think I know all about his achievements..sometimes u need to market urself well..obama and biden need to shake their campaign and step up.. Biden is good choice but if it was Hillary probably he could draw women voters... Iam going to campaign for obama next few weeks if I can..
I thoroughly enjoyed watching democratic convention and republic conventions..
I had high fever for a couple of days but these conventations made me forget about my sickness last two weeks.. moral of the story If you have things that interest u , they make u forget ur pains...
I also enjoyed watching olympics and almost developed a mini crush on micheal phelps..swimming, gymnastics (Raj participating in it and winning a medal finally) interested me..
bookers prize short list has aravind adigas novel and amitav ghoshs novel - good for indians..
Iam glad there are more new good indian writers coming up..the next rushdie generation..good for readers like me..
what else..
went for a nice indian classical dance show which was beautiful and made me all nostalgic
went for circus which was nice with amazing acrobats which made me sad for animals at the circus
went for a ballet and free style dance on dreams with just music and no songs which was interesting
went for indian independence day celebrations in indy which went well
celebrated varalakshmi pooja and Ganesh pooja at home last 3 weeks and made dahi vada,jelebi, dalvada, vada and indian rice pudding at home to offer to god which came out ok..
Most of my weekdays are busy with work. too much stuff to do as usual..
Most of my weekends last 2 months just slipped away , I volunteered almost every weekend last 2 months.. temple, running 5 bone marrow drives, food drives for salvation army I barely have time for myself..
Next two months look busy too I have a huge indian cultural event Iam chairing I need to organize, I have a walk Iam chairing I need to organize..so my weekends are pretty much gone..
books I tried to read:
one night at the call center by chetan bhagat which I started reading
finally finished Salman Rushdie's Enchantress which was a pretty confusing read..not a great novel but a ok time pass read..
Brief wondorous life of oscar wao by Junor Diaz which Iam enjoying reading
Aravind Adigas novel the white tiger
Movies I watched:
Outsourced - About an american who goes to India to train indians, very interesting movie on outsourcing. cultural differences, outlook, experiences very unique view
bachna eh haseenon- ok time pass Ranbir is ok deepika looks alright, rest of the girls look too old for Ranbir.
god tusse great ho - remake of Bruce almighty another mediocre film
kismat konnection - totally boring waste of time
Singh is king- which was mediocre
Jaane to na jaane -which was also mediocre
Mansaara kanavu- with kajol aravind swami - my kinda girl and movie great songs music by ARRahman
Dil se - maniratnam sharukh manisha koirala movie - excellent movie with good songs, story, direction
krishna telugu movie trisha - just time pass
what else
next few weeks more volunteering, busy work schedules, more indian events to organize..
no time for resting, relaxing, no time for guys or friends in life. single busy working girls life who volunteers all the time..my life is becoming like the girl in movie "Amelie" or the girl in movie "Mansara kanavu or priety zintas life in movie kal ho na ho..serious studious girls life..life goes on...
my india trip end of the year is coming soon..
so much to do as usual...no time to rest or relax as usual..
Friday, August 22, 2008
this and that...
News that interested me
whats up with Mccain paris hilton campaign..presidential race has become so cheap now..who wants a next president who gets into a childish fued with paris hilton?
Shouldnt presidential advertisements be serious specially with a bad economy, troubled war times..
cant even believe they have an add comparing obama with brittany and paris..shows how low they can stoop too.
This VP guess game, via cell phone announcements etc., good marketing move from obama, but doesnt it sound all commercial and jazzy...
whats up with anthrax scare..
a govt. scientist doing that cant even believe it..how can a scientist do this scaring people and putting someone at risk..
whats up with Anderson cooper..commenting on Lohans..
come on anderson you can do better than that..why are u talking about stuff like this..what happened to the anderson I adore who cares about darfur, cango,katrina victims,chimps in africa..
water on Mars finally..60 minutes has interesting news on our space programs..
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/04/04/60minutes/main3994925.shtml
on a easy new cancer cure from a cancer patient
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/04/10/60minutes/main4006951.shtml
what else..
Life has kept me busy..
too many new screens to develop at work for new diseases, important projects, people to train..work is leaving me exhausted..
busy volunteering every weekend..cant believe..every weekend I volunteer atleast one day...so weekends are also busy..
first salvation army food drive which went so so well, raised 400 dollars and two wagon loads food cans to keep the food bank from closing until christmas which was so good..heping some 500 families feeding them during this sad tough economy times.. I was very happy about this food drive..I donated a lot of my money too for salvation army food drive,least I can do helpthe people of this country who gave me a job and food to eat..
then a bone marrow drive again my third one this year last weekend which went well..hopefully cure for cancer patients..
then volunteering at temple.. even this weekend sunday I have a four hour volunteering at the temple..
Last weekend was vara lakshmi pooja , so i did pooja at home , one peaceful day..it went well.. with flowers, fruits, panchamrut, I did a very traditional lakshmi pooja at home and made jelebi and dahi vada and vada as naivedyam to goddess..One evening of quite prayer...
otherwise rest of the days were superbusy last four weeks..
Iam just a lil down and tired..
too much voluntary work and may be Iam missing having a family, having kids..now I finally feel like it is time for me to get married..all my girlfriends praying for my marriage are already coming up with middle names for my future kids since they are praying for my marriage , I have to give my kids middle names of my friends...too bad I dont even know how to find a guy for myself..Iam sure God is having a tough time
what else..
went to BOdies exhibition in Indy..
Bodies exhibition is not that scary, yes these are real deadbodies without skin and everything else, but they dont smell and they are not that scary..
Dont miss this exhibition, it is pretty good..
I thought I will freakout but strangely I did not freakout ..I didnot get scared..
may be it is scientist in me was looking at everything dazed and curious..learning about myself, my own body...
It was an education for me..
strangely though Iam a girl I am not conscious of my body at all, never dream of my wedding or anything that much..I dont think I ever understood my own body or beauty that much....
Iam like a little girl or a child sometimes...it is as if Iam in this extended phase of childhood for a long time and I liked being free, not being romantically involved, liked the adventerous and carefree life until recently..and then suddenly matured too much to become kind of prematurely senile after seeing so much pain specially my dads leukemia and all that..it is as if youth, romance, motherhood, dream of looking beautiful,marriage ,dreams slipped away somewhere...I dont think I ever understood my own body...
Iam kind of boy as most of my friends put it , I take 5 minutes to dress up, just wash my face with soap and Iam ready..I am not a typical girl..never been to beauty parlors and dont look at myself in mirror that long either, though have long hair I take 2 minutes to comb my hair like guys..only time I feel girlish is when I like chik flicks, soft romances, babies, cooking etc.,Iam very shy too like any other girl..
like all other girls strangely life has taught me not to dream...
so I kinda of never dreamed much about marriage, or having children or anything..I do miss not having a soulmate and not having children but never saw myself as a woman or bride or mother dont even know why..so never imagined myself with a big belly carrying a baby..
Until I saw bodies exhibition with small tiny babies who are 3 weeks to 8 months old, I didnot even realise that someday I will be carrying a baby in my womb too..the whole thing is just amazing. it makes u understand urself..it makes u understand what all ur body is capable of doing.
Bodies exhibition left me wondering what all amazing things our bodies can do..
I saw a lot of movies at home:
sarkar raj this weekend:
It was an interesting movie..kinda realistic in present day India..
Amitabh reminded me of my dad many times..
I remember growing up in a very tensed surroundings...my dad was stabbed because he stood for his ideals when I was barely 5 years old..then it would be the people who hated my dad for running single handedly his schools and colleges who tried to destroy his institutions by provoking students to go against my dad..me , grandma would hug when students through stones at our house for no issues, my dad struggled through out to keep up with his ideals with people trying to break him down allthe time until they could no longer stop his success..
I saw that in sarkar raj, everywhere struggles , life like a chess game people playing games all the time.
I kinda liked sarkar raj though it is sad..
just the story direction and amitabhs acting.. it was mumbai, saketu mehtas mumbai...u are reminded of political groups in mumbai..ram gopal verma seems to be a very fine director..I like movies sometimes with no romance..no song..no dance..just realistic ones with powerful dialogues which are contemporary..that youthful idealism that struggles with gundagiri,powerful political games...idealism dying in the hands of corrupt people..
good movie worth watching dont miss it..
then watched Singh is the king.
Singh is the king is just another masala movie, like the small town world innocence but it is just too loud..not a bad movie but it is just another movie..nothing special..katrina cannot act and is a beautiful glamour doll.. I think Akshay is ok as singh with turban...nothing memorable..just barely time pass.
I also saw bachna eh haseenon..
Ranbir kapoor movie who is ok ok actor, story is realistic and good..men finally repenting for dumping girls and saying sorry, I like that..all the girls except deepika look too old for Ranbir like elder sisters...too bad..deepika stands out and is cute..nice locations and shots..story is interesting..so a ok realistic movie to watch about todays romances..Iam like that deepikas character career oriented straight forward girl...Deepikas character reminded me so much of myself..
anyways..
Iam reading Salman Rushdies enchantress of florence..Iam at probably 280th page.
It has been an interesting ride unlike any rushdie novel I read before.
first 50 pages was good, then it became a history lesson next 50 pages that I almost could not even find the stamp of rushdies writing in those pages, pages 100 to 200 I could find rushdie again in those characters which are pretty unique and interesting, then again pages 200 onwards he lost me, in the same repetition , it gets confusing at the end where u tend to forget ur characters with so many new names that towards ending it leaves u bored to finish, leaves u confused.
None of rushdies earlier novels are like this, this is the worst of all but, probably he might land up with a booker for his historic attempt and unique imagination and story line connecting two continents.
what else..
I got a lot of new novels from library chetan bhagats hit indian novel "one night at call center"..some amitav ghosh, some this years bookers novels..so long list of books to read.
lots of books to read., ofcourse volunteering every weekend leaves me exhausted..so when I get time I read these days..so much to catch up..
life is superbusy workholic life and rest of time goes away in social service helping community..so there goes my life..less blogging, less internet,less socializing until may be soulmate comes sweeps me off my feet and just takes me to a different world which is more relaxing ..until then..woods are lovely dark and deep, I have promises to keep and miles to go before I sleep..
whats up with Mccain paris hilton campaign..presidential race has become so cheap now..who wants a next president who gets into a childish fued with paris hilton?
Shouldnt presidential advertisements be serious specially with a bad economy, troubled war times..
cant even believe they have an add comparing obama with brittany and paris..shows how low they can stoop too.
This VP guess game, via cell phone announcements etc., good marketing move from obama, but doesnt it sound all commercial and jazzy...
whats up with anthrax scare..
a govt. scientist doing that cant even believe it..how can a scientist do this scaring people and putting someone at risk..
whats up with Anderson cooper..commenting on Lohans..
come on anderson you can do better than that..why are u talking about stuff like this..what happened to the anderson I adore who cares about darfur, cango,katrina victims,chimps in africa..
water on Mars finally..60 minutes has interesting news on our space programs..
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/04/04/60minutes/main3994925.shtml
on a easy new cancer cure from a cancer patient
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/04/10/60minutes/main4006951.shtml
what else..
Life has kept me busy..
too many new screens to develop at work for new diseases, important projects, people to train..work is leaving me exhausted..
busy volunteering every weekend..cant believe..every weekend I volunteer atleast one day...so weekends are also busy..
first salvation army food drive which went so so well, raised 400 dollars and two wagon loads food cans to keep the food bank from closing until christmas which was so good..heping some 500 families feeding them during this sad tough economy times.. I was very happy about this food drive..I donated a lot of my money too for salvation army food drive,least I can do helpthe people of this country who gave me a job and food to eat..
then a bone marrow drive again my third one this year last weekend which went well..hopefully cure for cancer patients..
then volunteering at temple.. even this weekend sunday I have a four hour volunteering at the temple..
Last weekend was vara lakshmi pooja , so i did pooja at home , one peaceful day..it went well.. with flowers, fruits, panchamrut, I did a very traditional lakshmi pooja at home and made jelebi and dahi vada and vada as naivedyam to goddess..One evening of quite prayer...
otherwise rest of the days were superbusy last four weeks..
Iam just a lil down and tired..
too much voluntary work and may be Iam missing having a family, having kids..now I finally feel like it is time for me to get married..all my girlfriends praying for my marriage are already coming up with middle names for my future kids since they are praying for my marriage , I have to give my kids middle names of my friends...too bad I dont even know how to find a guy for myself..Iam sure God is having a tough time
what else..
went to BOdies exhibition in Indy..
Bodies exhibition is not that scary, yes these are real deadbodies without skin and everything else, but they dont smell and they are not that scary..
Dont miss this exhibition, it is pretty good..
I thought I will freakout but strangely I did not freakout ..I didnot get scared..
may be it is scientist in me was looking at everything dazed and curious..learning about myself, my own body...
It was an education for me..
strangely though Iam a girl I am not conscious of my body at all, never dream of my wedding or anything that much..I dont think I ever understood my own body or beauty that much....
Iam like a little girl or a child sometimes...it is as if Iam in this extended phase of childhood for a long time and I liked being free, not being romantically involved, liked the adventerous and carefree life until recently..and then suddenly matured too much to become kind of prematurely senile after seeing so much pain specially my dads leukemia and all that..it is as if youth, romance, motherhood, dream of looking beautiful,marriage ,dreams slipped away somewhere...I dont think I ever understood my own body...
Iam kind of boy as most of my friends put it , I take 5 minutes to dress up, just wash my face with soap and Iam ready..I am not a typical girl..never been to beauty parlors and dont look at myself in mirror that long either, though have long hair I take 2 minutes to comb my hair like guys..only time I feel girlish is when I like chik flicks, soft romances, babies, cooking etc.,Iam very shy too like any other girl..
like all other girls strangely life has taught me not to dream...
so I kinda of never dreamed much about marriage, or having children or anything..I do miss not having a soulmate and not having children but never saw myself as a woman or bride or mother dont even know why..so never imagined myself with a big belly carrying a baby..
Until I saw bodies exhibition with small tiny babies who are 3 weeks to 8 months old, I didnot even realise that someday I will be carrying a baby in my womb too..the whole thing is just amazing. it makes u understand urself..it makes u understand what all ur body is capable of doing.
Bodies exhibition left me wondering what all amazing things our bodies can do..
I saw a lot of movies at home:
sarkar raj this weekend:
It was an interesting movie..kinda realistic in present day India..
Amitabh reminded me of my dad many times..
I remember growing up in a very tensed surroundings...my dad was stabbed because he stood for his ideals when I was barely 5 years old..then it would be the people who hated my dad for running single handedly his schools and colleges who tried to destroy his institutions by provoking students to go against my dad..me , grandma would hug when students through stones at our house for no issues, my dad struggled through out to keep up with his ideals with people trying to break him down allthe time until they could no longer stop his success..
I saw that in sarkar raj, everywhere struggles , life like a chess game people playing games all the time.
I kinda liked sarkar raj though it is sad..
just the story direction and amitabhs acting.. it was mumbai, saketu mehtas mumbai...u are reminded of political groups in mumbai..ram gopal verma seems to be a very fine director..I like movies sometimes with no romance..no song..no dance..just realistic ones with powerful dialogues which are contemporary..that youthful idealism that struggles with gundagiri,powerful political games...idealism dying in the hands of corrupt people..
good movie worth watching dont miss it..
then watched Singh is the king.
Singh is the king is just another masala movie, like the small town world innocence but it is just too loud..not a bad movie but it is just another movie..nothing special..katrina cannot act and is a beautiful glamour doll.. I think Akshay is ok as singh with turban...nothing memorable..just barely time pass.
I also saw bachna eh haseenon..
Ranbir kapoor movie who is ok ok actor, story is realistic and good..men finally repenting for dumping girls and saying sorry, I like that..all the girls except deepika look too old for Ranbir like elder sisters...too bad..deepika stands out and is cute..nice locations and shots..story is interesting..so a ok realistic movie to watch about todays romances..Iam like that deepikas character career oriented straight forward girl...Deepikas character reminded me so much of myself..
anyways..
Iam reading Salman Rushdies enchantress of florence..Iam at probably 280th page.
It has been an interesting ride unlike any rushdie novel I read before.
first 50 pages was good, then it became a history lesson next 50 pages that I almost could not even find the stamp of rushdies writing in those pages, pages 100 to 200 I could find rushdie again in those characters which are pretty unique and interesting, then again pages 200 onwards he lost me, in the same repetition , it gets confusing at the end where u tend to forget ur characters with so many new names that towards ending it leaves u bored to finish, leaves u confused.
None of rushdies earlier novels are like this, this is the worst of all but, probably he might land up with a booker for his historic attempt and unique imagination and story line connecting two continents.
what else..
I got a lot of new novels from library chetan bhagats hit indian novel "one night at call center"..some amitav ghosh, some this years bookers novels..so long list of books to read.
lots of books to read., ofcourse volunteering every weekend leaves me exhausted..so when I get time I read these days..so much to catch up..
life is superbusy workholic life and rest of time goes away in social service helping community..so there goes my life..less blogging, less internet,less socializing until may be soulmate comes sweeps me off my feet and just takes me to a different world which is more relaxing ..until then..woods are lovely dark and deep, I have promises to keep and miles to go before I sleep..
Friday, August 1, 2008
this and that this week..
News this week
sad about blasts in India..innocent people dying. I prayed for India and US safety last weekend..
mccains negative attacks on obama comparing him to paris hilton and brittany too cheesy..why negative campaigning. focus on yourself and your positives, thats my motto...sell urself and ur positives..if they are good enough u will win..
Abc news says studies show women are happy until their 40s and men are happy after 40s until old age.. too bad..next decades are going to be sad for women like me..older men happier than older women
http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20080801/sc_livescience/oldermenhappierthanolderwomen;_ylt=Ag6TS8QPCuJGq7BW6k3YtYus0NUE
lovely pictures of solar eclipse
http://news.yahoo.com/nphotos/Total-eclipse-sun/ss/events/sc/080108solareclipse#photoViewer=/080801/481/1042d0bde5384f97864380cca569eb9f
books Iam reading :
salman rushdies enchantress- gets better after 100 pages, not as good as other rushdie books, feels like a history lesson but not too bad either, very creative
harikunzrus my revolutions - good through out, interesting story, characters, well written
I am reading a book on school system is US for our schools and colleges in India that my family runs..it is some personal business reading..
I am enjoying doing cross words puzzles too these days.. learning new words..
Dont have anyone to play scrabble with but whomever I marry Iam sure we will play lot of scrabble and do cross words puzzles and do word games together..and have lots of discussions on books we read..
movies I saw
love story 2050 - lovely picturization, scenic beauty, ok story, bad acting, bad music but romantic enough
jaane tu na jaane hum- very good acting, ok picturization, boring story, ok music, not romantic at all.
saw odd telugu movies nothing interesting just time pass ones..
I am looking forward to seeing sarkar raj this weekend..
music I listened to this week..shammi kapoor janwar songs total turn on for me, so so romantic
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uo1IGrPPrd8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhcACgr41AQ&feature=related
food I ate and cooked:
made upma, telugu kadi, alu+tindora+tomato sabji..had haldirams ready to go bhelpuri twice this week with evening tea..it is pretty good..
Ate punjabi restaurant khana..I have to admit I like punjabi food as much as I like telugu food..
weekend menu for me to cook - dosa, home made punjabi alugobi sabji and home made roti
what else
thought almost every weekend Iam volunteering I should take a break..
But then fox ran this story of a local food pantry having to close it because of lack of food donations and food pantry supports 800 families..so there goes me..
Next minute I knew I am talking to people, mobilising my volunteers and friends and running a massive food drive to keep this food pantry from closing.so there I go..next two weekends booked running the food drive..it ends august 9th.
August 16th is another bone marow drive. so there goes mylife...
Sometimes we want life to go one way, but life takes us the other way..
I know as all my relatives remind me its time to marry, settle, have kids, my life just seems to take me other way..
Most of my old school mates and college mates would be surprised if they hear about me as a scientist living in US and seeing me as a working girl last 13years in US.
One of my seniors met me in my company cafe some 3 years back and was shocked to see me. She was a big city girl. I was a small town/village girl. She naturally assumed I would marry by 20,have a whole bunch of kids settled in a remote village in India. I dont blame her. Because I was this silent girl wearing lungavoni with oiled hair and two plaits who rarely spoke and was so shy and so family oriented that you could bet on me to settle in marraige as soon as I finished degree.
No one knew I was college magazine editor twice before I turned 17, no one knew I wrote a mini novel before I turned 18, no one knew I wrote poetry in english when I was 19, no one knew by the time I turned 20 I read Aynrand and atlas shrugged became my bible and ramayana...and no one knew who I was at home either..
when I was 18 if you asked me what I wanted to with my life, I would have said I will be journalist or a IAS officer. All my teachers who knew me very well thought though I was good at science I would end up as an IAS or a IFS officer as I was so all rounded knowing everything about whats going on in the world..
But I ended up majoring in genetic engineering, became a scientist, now I dont do any more of genetic engineering or cloning, barely 10% of my job is biology, 30% is robotics and remaining 60% is computer data analysis..
I never thought I will be in US..here Iam now very americanized and very indianish too..and cant live without either countries and love both equally..
Here Iam a career woman, scientist by day time, event organizer and volunteer event chair by weekends and trying to be a writer if I have any more spare time to write, fighting on immigration causes sometimes, sometimes chairing odd events like picnics for 100people for free..
sometimes life takes u somewhere else..
13 long years with no boyfriends, no marriage, no soulmate living in US working and working..I know relatives tell me what is this life? I agree what a monastic life right...it is as if my youth just ran away and Iam still a child waiting for real love..
friends and family remind me to settle down often...
yap I want to get married, settle with a cute guy, have children which I cannot wait to have but kya kareen god seems to have other plans..may be girls like me need to have a guy come and sweep me off my feet from somewhere and take me away with him...until then volunteering will keep me busy I guess..
weekend activities:
brunch with girlfriends saturday morning
this lovely exhibition called bodies. scary but dont miss it, Iam scared to go but still will go..
http://www.bodiestheexhibition.com/
http://www.bodiestheexhibition.com/bodies.html
saturday afternoon bodies exhibition
glad Iam not a doctor, I dont like seeing bodies and I have made up my mind to never marry a doctor.
saturday evening is an art exhibition of a friend
sunday morning at the temple
then sunday evening biking and boating at the canal with a whole bunch of girlfriends.
for tonite, doesnot even feel like a friday with busy week at work and so much data to look at.. I just want an elachi chai, some haldiram ready to eat bhelpuri, a nice dinner
sad about blasts in India..innocent people dying. I prayed for India and US safety last weekend..
mccains negative attacks on obama comparing him to paris hilton and brittany too cheesy..why negative campaigning. focus on yourself and your positives, thats my motto...sell urself and ur positives..if they are good enough u will win..
Abc news says studies show women are happy until their 40s and men are happy after 40s until old age.. too bad..next decades are going to be sad for women like me..older men happier than older women
http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20080801/sc_livescience/oldermenhappierthanolderwomen;_ylt=Ag6TS8QPCuJGq7BW6k3YtYus0NUE
lovely pictures of solar eclipse
http://news.yahoo.com/nphotos/Total-eclipse-sun/ss/events/sc/080108solareclipse#photoViewer=/080801/481/1042d0bde5384f97864380cca569eb9f
books Iam reading :
salman rushdies enchantress- gets better after 100 pages, not as good as other rushdie books, feels like a history lesson but not too bad either, very creative
harikunzrus my revolutions - good through out, interesting story, characters, well written
I am reading a book on school system is US for our schools and colleges in India that my family runs..it is some personal business reading..
I am enjoying doing cross words puzzles too these days.. learning new words..
Dont have anyone to play scrabble with but whomever I marry Iam sure we will play lot of scrabble and do cross words puzzles and do word games together..and have lots of discussions on books we read..
movies I saw
love story 2050 - lovely picturization, scenic beauty, ok story, bad acting, bad music but romantic enough
jaane tu na jaane hum- very good acting, ok picturization, boring story, ok music, not romantic at all.
saw odd telugu movies nothing interesting just time pass ones..
I am looking forward to seeing sarkar raj this weekend..
music I listened to this week..shammi kapoor janwar songs total turn on for me, so so romantic
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uo1IGrPPrd8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhcACgr41AQ&feature=related
food I ate and cooked:
made upma, telugu kadi, alu+tindora+tomato sabji..had haldirams ready to go bhelpuri twice this week with evening tea..it is pretty good..
Ate punjabi restaurant khana..I have to admit I like punjabi food as much as I like telugu food..
weekend menu for me to cook - dosa, home made punjabi alugobi sabji and home made roti
what else
thought almost every weekend Iam volunteering I should take a break..
But then fox ran this story of a local food pantry having to close it because of lack of food donations and food pantry supports 800 families..so there goes me..
Next minute I knew I am talking to people, mobilising my volunteers and friends and running a massive food drive to keep this food pantry from closing.so there I go..next two weekends booked running the food drive..it ends august 9th.
August 16th is another bone marow drive. so there goes mylife...
Sometimes we want life to go one way, but life takes us the other way..
I know as all my relatives remind me its time to marry, settle, have kids, my life just seems to take me other way..
Most of my old school mates and college mates would be surprised if they hear about me as a scientist living in US and seeing me as a working girl last 13years in US.
One of my seniors met me in my company cafe some 3 years back and was shocked to see me. She was a big city girl. I was a small town/village girl. She naturally assumed I would marry by 20,have a whole bunch of kids settled in a remote village in India. I dont blame her. Because I was this silent girl wearing lungavoni with oiled hair and two plaits who rarely spoke and was so shy and so family oriented that you could bet on me to settle in marraige as soon as I finished degree.
No one knew I was college magazine editor twice before I turned 17, no one knew I wrote a mini novel before I turned 18, no one knew I wrote poetry in english when I was 19, no one knew by the time I turned 20 I read Aynrand and atlas shrugged became my bible and ramayana...and no one knew who I was at home either..
when I was 18 if you asked me what I wanted to with my life, I would have said I will be journalist or a IAS officer. All my teachers who knew me very well thought though I was good at science I would end up as an IAS or a IFS officer as I was so all rounded knowing everything about whats going on in the world..
But I ended up majoring in genetic engineering, became a scientist, now I dont do any more of genetic engineering or cloning, barely 10% of my job is biology, 30% is robotics and remaining 60% is computer data analysis..
I never thought I will be in US..here Iam now very americanized and very indianish too..and cant live without either countries and love both equally..
Here Iam a career woman, scientist by day time, event organizer and volunteer event chair by weekends and trying to be a writer if I have any more spare time to write, fighting on immigration causes sometimes, sometimes chairing odd events like picnics for 100people for free..
sometimes life takes u somewhere else..
13 long years with no boyfriends, no marriage, no soulmate living in US working and working..I know relatives tell me what is this life? I agree what a monastic life right...it is as if my youth just ran away and Iam still a child waiting for real love..
friends and family remind me to settle down often...
yap I want to get married, settle with a cute guy, have children which I cannot wait to have but kya kareen god seems to have other plans..may be girls like me need to have a guy come and sweep me off my feet from somewhere and take me away with him...until then volunteering will keep me busy I guess..
weekend activities:
brunch with girlfriends saturday morning
this lovely exhibition called bodies. scary but dont miss it, Iam scared to go but still will go..
http://www.bodiestheexhibition.com/
http://www.bodiestheexhibition.com/bodies.html
saturday afternoon bodies exhibition
glad Iam not a doctor, I dont like seeing bodies and I have made up my mind to never marry a doctor.
saturday evening is an art exhibition of a friend
sunday morning at the temple
then sunday evening biking and boating at the canal with a whole bunch of girlfriends.
for tonite, doesnot even feel like a friday with busy week at work and so much data to look at.. I just want an elachi chai, some haldiram ready to eat bhelpuri, a nice dinner
Monday, July 28, 2008
hugs and proposals from the oddest places...this and that..
unique day today..
I got hugs and proposals from the oddest places..
I was walking down town indy to fedex ofice to mail bone marrow drive completed applications with kits..a cute blonde american teenager comes to me with a huge board " hugs for free, Hugs for free"...I give him a shy smile as he comes closer to me and says "common hug me"...I didnot want to make him feel that this indian girl with the longest hair is strange..so I give him my obama fist and hand hug..he smiles and understands my shyness..I converse with him to make up for not giving him a hug telling him it is great he is doing this and spreading love and told him todays world needs a lot of love and hugs..he beams and smiles happily..
then I walk to tacobell to get my 7 layer vegetarian burrito and pick up fire sauce packets and each of those small fire sauce packets have messages on them..some saying "please marry me"..so I got proposed by a tacobell fire sauce packet..
I have to admit this proposal was way better than the proposal I got from a good looking indian man last october with roses , cards which I could not accept as the guy was so full of lies, was so so dishonest and was probably after money or photos and was superficial...my fire taco sauce had more honesty and fire than those guys who proposed to me before...
oddest places where I get hugs and proposals..
My weekend was great..
saturday was all fun and relaxing..
sunday was all volunteering running a bone marrow drive, which went so so well..we got almost 30 people registered. Considering that it takes almost 20 minutes with each person and I had only 3hrs or so to run the drive and I had just one volunteer helping me I have to say instead of doing 3-4 people for hour we did 10 people perhour which was amazing. My volunteer was newly trained volunteer but he did an excellent job..we had at every point 5-6 people to handle but we made no mistakes and got all registered on time .Finally this evening I fedexed all the completed forms.Finally this year second bone marrow drive I chaired went well. I have one more coming August 16th and one more sep 8th...hopefully leukemia patients find matches and get cured..
what else..
I saw Love story 2050 and Jaane tu na jaane hum this weekend.
I have to say I liked love story 2050 better than Jaane tu.. Probably love story 2050 is my kinda love story..the guy acted like hrithik roshan but my kinda guy would be like that outgoing who expresses love easily than the quiet ones who dont talk much..
genelia is definetely better than priyanka..
Imran khan is better than herman..
but love story 2050 is a better story than Jaane tu..in terms of rating them as love stories...2050 was more romantic than jaane tu..
I also read Rushdies enchantress a lil bit..
long week at work..business as usual..back to my scientist job..
Iam glad I do something totally different on weekends so that I forget Iam a scientist..temple, volunteering,cooking, hanging out with friends, reading,biking etc., takes me to different worlds, I forget my day job and my scientist life..
I cooked too this weekend..
felt like eating upma, dont know why I was craving for upma..
recipe: Heat oil, add chana, urad, mustard seeds, green chillies, karipatta, carrots, green peas, cut beans etc., fry for sometime, then add water, let water boil, then add fried suji, ghee,a lil bit of ginger powder..ginger and karipatta make upma get that special flovor..
what else..
week looks busy..
have no plans for weekend as yet..
may be just reading and writing finally and a movie or two..
for tonite just a simple elachi chai, a good book like rushdies enchantress or kunzrus my revolutions , TV serials two and half men and adventures of old christine will do , a couple of cross word puzzles will do..
I got hugs and proposals from the oddest places..
I was walking down town indy to fedex ofice to mail bone marrow drive completed applications with kits..a cute blonde american teenager comes to me with a huge board " hugs for free, Hugs for free"...I give him a shy smile as he comes closer to me and says "common hug me"...I didnot want to make him feel that this indian girl with the longest hair is strange..so I give him my obama fist and hand hug..he smiles and understands my shyness..I converse with him to make up for not giving him a hug telling him it is great he is doing this and spreading love and told him todays world needs a lot of love and hugs..he beams and smiles happily..
then I walk to tacobell to get my 7 layer vegetarian burrito and pick up fire sauce packets and each of those small fire sauce packets have messages on them..some saying "please marry me"..so I got proposed by a tacobell fire sauce packet..
I have to admit this proposal was way better than the proposal I got from a good looking indian man last october with roses , cards which I could not accept as the guy was so full of lies, was so so dishonest and was probably after money or photos and was superficial...my fire taco sauce had more honesty and fire than those guys who proposed to me before...
oddest places where I get hugs and proposals..
My weekend was great..
saturday was all fun and relaxing..
sunday was all volunteering running a bone marrow drive, which went so so well..we got almost 30 people registered. Considering that it takes almost 20 minutes with each person and I had only 3hrs or so to run the drive and I had just one volunteer helping me I have to say instead of doing 3-4 people for hour we did 10 people perhour which was amazing. My volunteer was newly trained volunteer but he did an excellent job..we had at every point 5-6 people to handle but we made no mistakes and got all registered on time .Finally this evening I fedexed all the completed forms.Finally this year second bone marrow drive I chaired went well. I have one more coming August 16th and one more sep 8th...hopefully leukemia patients find matches and get cured..
what else..
I saw Love story 2050 and Jaane tu na jaane hum this weekend.
I have to say I liked love story 2050 better than Jaane tu.. Probably love story 2050 is my kinda love story..the guy acted like hrithik roshan but my kinda guy would be like that outgoing who expresses love easily than the quiet ones who dont talk much..
genelia is definetely better than priyanka..
Imran khan is better than herman..
but love story 2050 is a better story than Jaane tu..in terms of rating them as love stories...2050 was more romantic than jaane tu..
I also read Rushdies enchantress a lil bit..
long week at work..business as usual..back to my scientist job..
Iam glad I do something totally different on weekends so that I forget Iam a scientist..temple, volunteering,cooking, hanging out with friends, reading,biking etc., takes me to different worlds, I forget my day job and my scientist life..
I cooked too this weekend..
felt like eating upma, dont know why I was craving for upma..
recipe: Heat oil, add chana, urad, mustard seeds, green chillies, karipatta, carrots, green peas, cut beans etc., fry for sometime, then add water, let water boil, then add fried suji, ghee,a lil bit of ginger powder..ginger and karipatta make upma get that special flovor..
what else..
week looks busy..
have no plans for weekend as yet..
may be just reading and writing finally and a movie or two..
for tonite just a simple elachi chai, a good book like rushdies enchantress or kunzrus my revolutions , TV serials two and half men and adventures of old christine will do , a couple of cross word puzzles will do..
Saturday, July 26, 2008
A near perfect day....
Indianapolis canal and cornfields at the temple...I had a near perfect day today...only thing I missed was having cute soulmate around holding my hands..
After weeks and weeks of volunteering and getting involved in organizing picnic this and that, I finally had a day..a whole day for myself..
A near perfect day..
A beautiful spiritual morning at the temple, then a nice indian homely lunch at the temple, then shopping with a girlfriend and buying lots of indian movies and spicy grocery, then watching this movie "Jaane tum Jaane ne" which I wanted to watch for sometime, then biking around the canal which I was wanting to do for sometime, biking so refreshing for body and soul, biking watching canal waters dance to setting sun, then sitting under sunny skies with a caramel macchiono at starbucks and reading Salman Rushdies "Enchantress"...
near perfect day..
I just wished a cute guy was there with me and I could put my arms around his shoulder and chat chat chat about books..that would have made this day perfect..
hopefully someday..
what else..
tomorrow whole day from 9am to 3pm I will be busy running a bone marrow drive for south asians..so sunday is gone in volunteering as usual..
Books Iam reading right now..
Salman Rushdies " Enchantress"..not as good as other Rushdies novels..first 100 pages were history lecture with no magical realism..finally middle 100 pages , u can feel Rushdies unique characters and magical realism and Rushdies signature which makes me happy but still the novel is not that great..characters just float in history lessons..there is no sequence , story has so many breaks, it gets confusing..I admit though characters are unique as usual typical Rushdies style and very interesting..on the whole I have to read every Rushdies novel so I am going to finish it gracefully..
Iam also reading
Harikunzrus " My revolutions". I like his novels. Iam glad there is a next generation of writers like kunzru, zadie smith who can replace naipaul and rushdie..I like his my revolutions better than transmission and not as good as his first novel the impressionist..on the whole another good novel from this writer..he is consistanly good, comes up with unique stories with little romance..and I love that..I like manly novels with little romance..
saw movie Jaane tu na Janee..it was ok..not great..Aamirkhan produced it, it is good like timepass romance movie but nothing unique or great..If u watched telugu movie "Nuvve kavali" which is about 2 best friends who fight all the time and dont realise they love each other , u wont like Jaane tu na tu Janee..nuvve kavali is so so better..so aamir did not come with a novel story..admitted... Genelia and Irfan khan or Imran khan are ok..but Genelia did not look that great in this movie..she acted better and was more natural in telugu movies, she seems inhibited in this movie..but ok time pass cute movie...not memorable like quayamat se quayamat thak or maine pyar kiya or kaho na pyar hi..all these three movies are movies I want to watch with the man I fall in love with just for cute puppy romance..but definetely not jaane tu..
Understanding love is hard, recognising love is hard too..Iam a fool too that way..I dont know what true love is as yet..I hope I can recognise love when he comes to me or I hope he guy realises he is in love with me and makes me realise that...falling in love is hard..And finding true love is even harder I think..I pray I find my true love or recognise my true love soon..
what else..
Indian blasts made me very sad..I prayed for India and US safety too at the temple..I hope people stop fighting and make it a safe place for little kids..
Obama 200,000 crowd and speech in Germany impressed me..the man has charisma and he is moving the world too..good for him..
what else..
bone marrow drive tomorrow..busy weekend..
nite is still young..so hope to read, write, do crosswords..
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Americanidol live concert, shammi kapoor movie janwar..
Photos of American idol live concert I attended yesterday...it was terrible sound system..instrumental music was so so loud that I could not hear David archeleta or cooks voice..sayesha was good.. on the whole I walked out of the concert with a headache..
Interesting live concert experience..
Last few days have been so crazy for me..
I probably saw 150,000 or 200,000 numbers in the last 4 days..so many drug screens data to look at , I felt like puking and felt like not wanting to see any more data...every cmpd could be a potential cure for disease so you need to look at every number carefully..on top of that this new drug screen I am developing has no proper software to analyse data..so I ended by analysing data twice with old software and after I got the new software...so much so much that I kept reading blogs and any words I could get hand on while looking at data..I needed a break every 2hrs..man crazy days...
On top of all that yesterday I had a formal company dinner with an amazing lady, who is one of the top50 most influential women in USA. It was an amazing experience having intimate dinner with her...we talked so much about India and culture..it was wonderful...and after that I went for american idol concert..so u can imagine how long my day was..I slept with a headache last nite..
man what a week..
I cant wait for friday to come..
what else interested me..
obamas foreign trip.
Good job with Afghanistan..and his statement that we should have concentrated on afghanistan instead of iraq
Iraq- Ok Job,not so sure if his troop withdrawal will work.
Isreal- His statements on keeping jeruselum as capital no matter what doesnot help palestinians..His abc interview was kind of not too clear and a lil confusing and vague...have to wait and see.
what else..
books Iam reading...Rushdie's novel Enchantress is slowly getting into me..strangely Iam liking it a lil bit after the first 100 pages...but its not as good as any of his previous novels for sure..
what else.. Movies I watched...
shammi kapoors Janwar- so so cute..rajashree shammi kapoor , Iam all phida for this song of shammi kapoor tumse acha kaun hi, mere mohabbat jawan rahegi..so so super cute..man, my heart is so so phida for shammi kapoor...he makes me all romantic..
what else, I have a bonemarrow drive to run this sunday..
saturday afternoon lunch and shopping with girlfriends..
Rushdies enchantress to read..
may be make some idli, dosa, dal makhani, batura at home..Iam all booked and relaxed..life is all about simple pleasures..
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Is Rushdies enchantress enchanting? genocide in sudan , new cancer cure, movie sangam..
Last few weekends were busy with volunteer work organizing picnics , running bone marrow drive etc.,
I was missing my best friends...books and reading..
so this weekend I made a decision not to do much this weekend and just spend the entire weekend reading the book I was waiting to read for sometime now..
I decided not to do anything saturday evening and sunday whole day, just read read and read...
One of my fav. writer Rushdies novel " Enchantress of Florence"
Was Rushdies enchantres enchanting?
so far 85 pages read, I didnot find enchantress that enchanting. I kept sleeping every 2hrs for atleast 15 minutes before I would wake up and start reading again..I dont know why I was sleeping ( may be my cramps or tiredness)..was enchantress that boring or is it my tired body whatever it is enchantress did not keep me that excited or active..It was like a history lesson I was getting from Rushdie in this new novel..I was loosing track of this characters and story in these history lessons. Cant figure out whether his character are real historical characters or did Rushdie imagine and create his characters..
surprisingly in those 85 pages I found 5 -10 pages having unique Rushdies style, that unique creativity, sly wit, creativity, some kinda magical realism..rest 70 pages dont even carry any of Rushdies style of writing.
Story based in florence and India...Akbar, this birbal and his team ( some familiar stories I read in amar chitra kahani), the whores of that generation, the imaginative queen jodha (cant even believe how can one believe in an imaginative wife), palaces etc., it was a unique assembly yet not that charming..
Iam bent upon finishing his novel, so Iam going to try hard to finish it, but I have to admit I was disappointed.. I keep waiting for Rushdies new arrivals but readings MVs review at ultrabrown I postponed reading this novel and may be I did it a good thing not buying it and postponing it till today..
I liked Rushdies last book "shalimar the clown" a lot. I liked most other Rushdies novels than his new one..
what else interested me..
abc news had a dialogue on why american cars are not coming up with solutions to oil price increase, they are but electric battery operated cars cost 100,000 dollars too bad and will release in 2010 or 4 years from now..too bad..thats why they all need to read alvin tofflers books and prepare for future way ahead..
Obama is in afghanistan, he says we should have focused on afghanistan and iraq at all..he is right..he is visiting iraq this week, Iam looking forward to what he will say about pulling out troups..without visiting the place his withdrawal plans always made me wonder..now that he is visiting for the first time, it would be interesting to see iraq through obamas eyes..
60 minutes had a very sad program on genocide in darfur,sudan..so so sad..happenign still in todays generation..US foreign policy so dual here, they need sudan govt support to track extremists and so are alleys yet cant support the govts. genocide and voilence and want to fight against it..delicate balance..tough foreign policy..see here for more on this..
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/10/20/60minutes/main2111909.shtml
Also on 60 minutes new way to cure for cancer by a cancer patient..amazing story..
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/04/10/60minutes/main4006951.shtml
Thats why I like watching 60 minute, I always learn a lot..
what else..
Iam a lil tired..so Iam resting most of the weekend..
I went to temple yesterday to thank God..my family got 10 years visitors visa to come to US, I sponsored and prepared all paper work..it is so so hard to be away from family last 13yrs living in US, so atleast now they have an option to visit me whenever they can...Being a scientist and contributing good to the community here in Indianapolis is one thing, but the cost I pay for it is also priceless..13years of lonely working girls life with no family, no hubby, no children,empty personal life being so far away from home India I wonder sometimes if it is all worth it..good for science, good for community but may be not that good for me..Hopefully I will find a soulmate soon here in US and fill that gap...wishful thinking..
what else..
next weekend Iam running bone marrow drive again for south asians saturday 10am to 3pm..
I am running two more bone marrow drives august 16th and sep8th...
then august volunteer event at temple etc.,
october I have this 10,000 dollar cultural event I have to organize..I need to organize the event fromvenue to food to cultural show and entertainment to seminars so much to organize..
so rest of the year and weekends look busy..Hopefully an India trip inbetween all this in August end..
life goes on...busy single working girls life...no time to even search or runafter a soulmate or do other things in life..
wish life was simpler... a perfect soulmate comes before me without having to search for him, settle soon in a simple marriage and then adopt a whole bunch of orphan children and live happily ever after..
Tonite I saw this old hindi movie "sangam"..Raj kapoor, vaijayanthimala and Rajendra kumar...
man I have to say the movie freaked me out a lil bit..it was intense..2 people in love with the same girl..Most new movies also have the same story..but sangam was more intense than the new movies..Reasons it is not only the acting but also may the old world morals of that generation..friends sacrificing love for each other, girls just adjusting and compromising and shifting love, one person dies at the end..man I pray Iam never in such a love story experience ever in my life..I hope I fall in love with a guy who loves me only sincerely and hope I get married to a guy where we two love each other only and no one else...that is why when I dont like someone I dont delay, I just tell them Iam not their type...Iam glad I broke my engagement because I didnot feel like I could love that man who demanded dowry...Dont marry unless u are 100% sure u love ur man or woman 100%...otherwise it is dangerous..marriages wont work..
sangam movie freaked me out..I like to see happy endings, just two love birds...cheating husbands, wives, 3-4 people involved in love, cassanovas, flirts freak me out..
people who dont write email replies or express what they think freely, who dont call or have emotional depth but still want to marry looking at just photos, people who dont express feelings and hide their feelings freak me out..
some of my friends are always in and out of relationships because they cannot stay single..they break their hearts and someone elses hearts too..Iam glad Iam not in love and single for a long time , it is better to be away from everything than break someones heart. I would rather wait years for the right person than fall for wrong person or keep breaking peoples heart..lessons learnt..
nite is still young..
back to Rushdies enchantress tonite again..
I was missing my best friends...books and reading..
so this weekend I made a decision not to do much this weekend and just spend the entire weekend reading the book I was waiting to read for sometime now..
I decided not to do anything saturday evening and sunday whole day, just read read and read...
One of my fav. writer Rushdies novel " Enchantress of Florence"
Was Rushdies enchantres enchanting?
so far 85 pages read, I didnot find enchantress that enchanting. I kept sleeping every 2hrs for atleast 15 minutes before I would wake up and start reading again..I dont know why I was sleeping ( may be my cramps or tiredness)..was enchantress that boring or is it my tired body whatever it is enchantress did not keep me that excited or active..It was like a history lesson I was getting from Rushdie in this new novel..I was loosing track of this characters and story in these history lessons. Cant figure out whether his character are real historical characters or did Rushdie imagine and create his characters..
surprisingly in those 85 pages I found 5 -10 pages having unique Rushdies style, that unique creativity, sly wit, creativity, some kinda magical realism..rest 70 pages dont even carry any of Rushdies style of writing.
Story based in florence and India...Akbar, this birbal and his team ( some familiar stories I read in amar chitra kahani), the whores of that generation, the imaginative queen jodha (cant even believe how can one believe in an imaginative wife), palaces etc., it was a unique assembly yet not that charming..
Iam bent upon finishing his novel, so Iam going to try hard to finish it, but I have to admit I was disappointed.. I keep waiting for Rushdies new arrivals but readings MVs review at ultrabrown I postponed reading this novel and may be I did it a good thing not buying it and postponing it till today..
I liked Rushdies last book "shalimar the clown" a lot. I liked most other Rushdies novels than his new one..
what else interested me..
abc news had a dialogue on why american cars are not coming up with solutions to oil price increase, they are but electric battery operated cars cost 100,000 dollars too bad and will release in 2010 or 4 years from now..too bad..thats why they all need to read alvin tofflers books and prepare for future way ahead..
Obama is in afghanistan, he says we should have focused on afghanistan and iraq at all..he is right..he is visiting iraq this week, Iam looking forward to what he will say about pulling out troups..without visiting the place his withdrawal plans always made me wonder..now that he is visiting for the first time, it would be interesting to see iraq through obamas eyes..
60 minutes had a very sad program on genocide in darfur,sudan..so so sad..happenign still in todays generation..US foreign policy so dual here, they need sudan govt support to track extremists and so are alleys yet cant support the govts. genocide and voilence and want to fight against it..delicate balance..tough foreign policy..see here for more on this..
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/10/20/60minutes/main2111909.shtml
Also on 60 minutes new way to cure for cancer by a cancer patient..amazing story..
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/04/10/60minutes/main4006951.shtml
Thats why I like watching 60 minute, I always learn a lot..
what else..
Iam a lil tired..so Iam resting most of the weekend..
I went to temple yesterday to thank God..my family got 10 years visitors visa to come to US, I sponsored and prepared all paper work..it is so so hard to be away from family last 13yrs living in US, so atleast now they have an option to visit me whenever they can...Being a scientist and contributing good to the community here in Indianapolis is one thing, but the cost I pay for it is also priceless..13years of lonely working girls life with no family, no hubby, no children,empty personal life being so far away from home India I wonder sometimes if it is all worth it..good for science, good for community but may be not that good for me..Hopefully I will find a soulmate soon here in US and fill that gap...wishful thinking..
what else..
next weekend Iam running bone marrow drive again for south asians saturday 10am to 3pm..
I am running two more bone marrow drives august 16th and sep8th...
then august volunteer event at temple etc.,
october I have this 10,000 dollar cultural event I have to organize..I need to organize the event fromvenue to food to cultural show and entertainment to seminars so much to organize..
so rest of the year and weekends look busy..Hopefully an India trip inbetween all this in August end..
life goes on...busy single working girls life...no time to even search or runafter a soulmate or do other things in life..
wish life was simpler... a perfect soulmate comes before me without having to search for him, settle soon in a simple marriage and then adopt a whole bunch of orphan children and live happily ever after..
Tonite I saw this old hindi movie "sangam"..Raj kapoor, vaijayanthimala and Rajendra kumar...
man I have to say the movie freaked me out a lil bit..it was intense..2 people in love with the same girl..Most new movies also have the same story..but sangam was more intense than the new movies..Reasons it is not only the acting but also may the old world morals of that generation..friends sacrificing love for each other, girls just adjusting and compromising and shifting love, one person dies at the end..man I pray Iam never in such a love story experience ever in my life..I hope I fall in love with a guy who loves me only sincerely and hope I get married to a guy where we two love each other only and no one else...that is why when I dont like someone I dont delay, I just tell them Iam not their type...Iam glad I broke my engagement because I didnot feel like I could love that man who demanded dowry...Dont marry unless u are 100% sure u love ur man or woman 100%...otherwise it is dangerous..marriages wont work..
sangam movie freaked me out..I like to see happy endings, just two love birds...cheating husbands, wives, 3-4 people involved in love, cassanovas, flirts freak me out..
people who dont write email replies or express what they think freely, who dont call or have emotional depth but still want to marry looking at just photos, people who dont express feelings and hide their feelings freak me out..
some of my friends are always in and out of relationships because they cannot stay single..they break their hearts and someone elses hearts too..Iam glad Iam not in love and single for a long time , it is better to be away from everything than break someones heart. I would rather wait years for the right person than fall for wrong person or keep breaking peoples heart..lessons learnt..
nite is still young..
back to Rushdies enchantress tonite again..
Thursday, July 17, 2008
this and that..
Everyone loved my dress at the picnic and jewellary...here it is the famous green dress..and the lovely necklace..i got 2 orders of the necklace already...
I got a nice south indian silk saree mom gifted me , asked the tailor here to stitch the pallu as front part of a chudidaar and got a punjabi dress made out of saree..I wore no make up..just a nice dress and good jewallary..all u need is that..everything very real..no artificial stuff to make u look good...
here are more picnic fun pictures.
women bet men in tug of rope
3 year old kids in trash bags racing
50 year olds participating in water baloon tossing or baloon balancing game..
memorable picnic and its pictures..
what else..
week so far has been extremely busy..
lots of new drug screens, training people with new drug screen Iam developing at work, busy with writing proposals for the big 10,000 dollar event Iam organizing for the indian group, working on planning all that. venue, type of event, food, huge cultural show, business part, name of event, price of tickets, making it a charity fun event helping causes I believe in..all by october end..
inviting american and indian employees...
Iam going to have my friends choreograph dances for it..Iam going to choreograph and dance in one..so I spent sometime watching songs I want employees to dance..some are from 45 years old to 25 years old most of us with no dance skills..
so I nailed on..
devdas song of aiswarya first song with lamps....all female dance..
bombay song kehna hi kya..all female dance
morini bagame song from lamhe movie I think - a desert rajasthani song with chudi..
and a mixed song of ballet and indian dance to this hariharan lewis colonial cousins song with english words "krishna, come back as jesus, come back as rama" which is a perfect unity song for all the american employees coming for the event to understand the message..
so here Iam doing the impossible, attempting the impossible..that is me..hope me and my friends can pull it off...here is the song..
so I will be busy next two months until october with all that..
I havent danced in ages, learnt bharatnatyam long time back so have to see how it goes..
my american friends are all so excited to learn indian dance and create a fusion..where there is a will I believe there is a way...
what else..
I loved this video on obama, mccain..supercute funny video on jibjab..
VP buzz on two Indiana senators for obama..interesting, good for indiana...
so you think u can dance great performance from one excellent padida routine by katee again..
books Iam reading..nothing much..I dont get time to read any more..so it is a totally dry spell..except doing cross words or a page here and there..
so I decided to make up for it..
this weekend Iam going to get Rushdie enchantress and do nothing but read and finish his novel..just Rushdies book and me..and lot of spicy indian food..
I might go for a concert and a movie too if I can this weekend..
tomorrow it is bowling time with 7 girlfriends which I am organizing as I realised last few weeks I was working too hard and I needed bowling to unwind..
so it is the enchantress, bowling and spicy indian food for me this weekend..
Sunday, July 13, 2008
picnic pictures
Picnic I organanized was a great success. 100 people or so came..here are some of the photos..
u know ur picnic went well when kids come and tell you..one 8 year old cutie boy told me this is the best picnic he ever had in his life..one more five year old asked me my name and asked me where I live, she wants to come for all fun events I organize..
A friend of mine had a bet with me saying that organized schedule will not work in picnic and adults wont participate in the games including he and his wife..He admitted at the end that he had great one and he and his friends and all the women jumped on for every game I organized saying I want to participate, I want to participate..it was so much fun to see adults behaving like kids and playing games..
A sardarji who must be 60 also played games and was sucha sporty uncle , he sang a punjabi song and his son also sang a bhagra song and moved his hands..everyone who came told me it was so much fun..
They said food was great..I did not even get time to eat as I was organizing everything..
They said food was great..I did not even get time to eat as I was organizing everything..
too bad..
my bone marrow drive went ok..
best part is girls bet men in tug of war rope..I mean women bet men in two tug of rope games..men just fell like pack of cards..women power..
Iam exhausted by so happy my first big picnic event was fun..
In october Iam going to organize a 10,000 dollar event..hope it will be fun too..
cant believe me a serious scientist organizing events..
it was fun..
all the ladies loved my chudidar and jewellary that they wanted me to get them something like that from India..
Everyone showered so much praise and said they had a blast at picnic that Iam happy..wish I had a soulmate, he was there too to see that..today I missed having a soulmate around me and my parents around to see and have fun..
what else..
sunday sixty minutes was interesting..
week looks busy with drug screeens and scientist job..
I cant wait to crash on my bed soon today..
Saturday, July 12, 2008
picnic organizing experience.this and that..
Tomorrow Iam organizing a picnic for 125 people...
Every year 25 people turn up, my luck 125 people are turning up..It is like organizing a big party but you have to entertain 125 strangers...
It was fun organizing a picnic...yesterday I went and bought 125 plates, bowls, 125 glasses..and I was finding myself all confused foam plates or recycled plates, plates with partition or plates without partition, foam glasses or plastic glasses , will 125 glasses do or people need more, will they want to eat with fork or spoon, how many paper towels each person would need..endless questions for a libran girl like who takes time to make decisions..there are too many choices in US for everything..
then what games..
finally I zereoed on trashbag race, water baloon race, baloon balancing race, tug of rope, antyakhshari, cricket,bingo, chits with funny messages which people have to do.. now what funny things can I make people do with the chits..so I thought and thought and came up with this list..
Do your happy dance, you sad dance, your funny face, say yerralorry 10 times fast,fav. film dialogue,sing an indian song, define India in one word, some filmi dialogue, your fav.joke,makeup a funny name ..
hope this will be funny when people try to do it..
there will be face painting for kids...
with so many people organizing events is hard..so divide them into groups, let them race, winners get prizes as groups..
I even got 2 first aid kids incase someone gets hurt.
ordered food from restaurant, pitch in is also there..
food, entertainment, keeping them busy making sure they are having fun is the key..
Iam so glad my whole team is helping me out...everyone is doing a lil bit of everything..assigning people responsibilities is key..
Iam also running a bone marrow drive, so I had to train my volunteers, get kits and everything..
two goals in one event..funpicnic and bone marrow drive...
I am looking forward to playing cricket myself tomorrow, hope the guys let me play cricket...
I have to see how it goes tomorrow.. Iam gone from 9am to 5pm to make arrangements , get the picnic going and clean up after picnic..the whole day is gone..
but on the whole it was a wonderful experience though it took some of my spare time away and Iam a lil exhausted..
cant wait to get it done..
what else
went to temple this morning with friend..they made spicy telugu khana at the temple..I met a lot of friends at temple, so caught up with everyone. sometimes temple makes me feel less home sick..it feels like home at the temple..
nite looks relaxing..I have to make yogurt rice for the picnic as my pitch in...but after I should be free.
so looking forward to reading, writing, crosswords, may be watch an odd movie and have fun..
Every year 25 people turn up, my luck 125 people are turning up..It is like organizing a big party but you have to entertain 125 strangers...
It was fun organizing a picnic...yesterday I went and bought 125 plates, bowls, 125 glasses..and I was finding myself all confused foam plates or recycled plates, plates with partition or plates without partition, foam glasses or plastic glasses , will 125 glasses do or people need more, will they want to eat with fork or spoon, how many paper towels each person would need..endless questions for a libran girl like who takes time to make decisions..there are too many choices in US for everything..
then what games..
finally I zereoed on trashbag race, water baloon race, baloon balancing race, tug of rope, antyakhshari, cricket,bingo, chits with funny messages which people have to do.. now what funny things can I make people do with the chits..so I thought and thought and came up with this list..
Do your happy dance, you sad dance, your funny face, say yerralorry 10 times fast,fav. film dialogue,sing an indian song, define India in one word, some filmi dialogue, your fav.joke,makeup a funny name ..
hope this will be funny when people try to do it..
there will be face painting for kids...
with so many people organizing events is hard..so divide them into groups, let them race, winners get prizes as groups..
I even got 2 first aid kids incase someone gets hurt.
ordered food from restaurant, pitch in is also there..
food, entertainment, keeping them busy making sure they are having fun is the key..
Iam so glad my whole team is helping me out...everyone is doing a lil bit of everything..assigning people responsibilities is key..
Iam also running a bone marrow drive, so I had to train my volunteers, get kits and everything..
two goals in one event..funpicnic and bone marrow drive...
I am looking forward to playing cricket myself tomorrow, hope the guys let me play cricket...
I have to see how it goes tomorrow.. Iam gone from 9am to 5pm to make arrangements , get the picnic going and clean up after picnic..the whole day is gone..
but on the whole it was a wonderful experience though it took some of my spare time away and Iam a lil exhausted..
cant wait to get it done..
what else
went to temple this morning with friend..they made spicy telugu khana at the temple..I met a lot of friends at temple, so caught up with everyone. sometimes temple makes me feel less home sick..it feels like home at the temple..
nite looks relaxing..I have to make yogurt rice for the picnic as my pitch in...but after I should be free.
so looking forward to reading, writing, crosswords, may be watch an odd movie and have fun..
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
this and that...
me in Indian skirts,my summer wardrobe..everyone says my skirts are very unique..they all are indian skirts..I think if u want colorful skirts, odd colors, great unique designs buy indian skirts they cost 3 to 4 dollars in india and they look lovely...
I get lot of compliments for my jewellary too..Indian jewellary is lovely..
I dont put any makeup not even kajal or powder or cream..just wash my face with soap and thats it.. today the lady in the cafetaria who is blonde american lady told me looking at my coconut water can said " I wish I had skin like u, u glow all the time, is coconut water ur secret". I was shocked..specially hearing from an american woman with pinkish white skin telling me my yellowish brown or my fair skin is pretty was kind of what..then I told her no not coconut water, zero makeup is my secret, not going to beauty parlors or applying any creams is my secret.
I realised over years u can look great without beauty parlors keeping ur skin naturally glowing by not applying anything..simplicity is the best. Just good clothes and nice jewellary will make up for all artificial stuff ..
what else..
Life is busy as usual..
work keeps me so busy so many projects in hand, it has been almost like 2 new projects every month..
Iam busy with other stuff too..every year when other people organized picnic 20 people showed up...so this year when Iam organizing it everyone told me dont expect more than 30 people or so..so I was cool..planned with less budget, booked a shelter , games for a small group, food for a small group, events for a small group..picnic is sunday..today when I looked at how many people RSVPed, it turned out to be 90 people..cant believe this..everything I organize always is a success and I pull more crowd than normal but this time it is a lot more..Now I needed more budget, more food, better games..so u can imagine Iam so busy changing my strategy and replanning again..Now everyone is scared that 50 or 100 more people will sign up now that madhavis name is on board..so more work for me..Hope it goes well..This evening talked to a local restaurant and arranged for more food, tomorrow more new games, more new volunteers and newer assignments for them..so much to do..And Iam running a bone marrow drive at the picnic too, so so much to do..
I still have to plan and do four more events for this day..looks like this year is going to be one of the busiest years of my life..that means no time for looking for a guy, no time for marriage, no time for personal stuff unless I work less..my boss is not ready to let me work for 30hrs a week..he says he needs me to work 40 hrs a day and cannot afford to letme go even for an hour..so there goes my life..India trip postponed..life goes on..
Hope my family can visit me again from India, hope my dream guy will look for me and come to me as I have no time to look, hope things fall in place while I slog hard at work and spend the rest of days this year volunteering and helping community..
what else..
last nite I spend some time reading Kabul beauty school about a UN peace keeper who lands up in kabul with no skills , ends up opening a beauty parlor, helps make people lives bright..it is about afghan culture, their arranged marriages and lives of their women pretty interesting novel
Iam also reading Punjabi century as a part of research for my novel Iam writing and trying to finish
obama audacity of hope occasional reading..Did anyone see obamas kids talking to access hollywood..now obama says he regrets letting his kids talk..its ok man, it shows u are a nice family man with small cute kids who like ice cream its ok..
movies I watched..
boys- siddarth genelia movie pretty cute movie.
music I listened to maine hava ke parron pe likha hi and jaane hi...from mere baap pahle aap which has beautiful kerala scenaries and dances..
things that interested me
G8 climateplan with no solutions , india china refusing to comply..no one really cares about pollution or global warming until it is too late..world never agrees on even important issues..so so sad..
what else..
weekend looks busy with picnic
next week looks busy with volunteer activity I need to organize after I get done with picnic stuff.
A week after it will be huge multicultural event for 200 to 300 people including CEOs of the company I need to organize.
someone told me I have excellent organization skills why dont I become a manager. I told them I love science a lot and like my job as a scientist..finding cures for leukemia and diseases like that means a lot to me as much all other interests in life..
what can I say..management skills is just a part of me..my responsibilities to my family, my dads schools and colleges as vicepresident in India, my volunteer organization activities, my writing group, my own novel to finish, and my scientist job..so many places I need to be there..everything demands attention..multitasking is a way of life for me...cant even imagine when I marry how it will be..hubby, inlaws, kids will add to this list too..hope I get a hubby who is also up for all these..sharing jobs, sharing responsibilities and making a difference evrywhere is what I want to do..
life is a gods gift , we need to use it productively..
Monday, July 7, 2008
weekend wisdom...
I learnt a lot this long weekend...
yesterday I went bowling for the first time in my life...First 4 times I just couldnt bowl at all..my ball was going sideways if I threw it with one hand, the ball was too heavy for my delicate hands..Then I tried bowling just using both my hands without holding the ball with my fingers..and then it started working...
it was wonderful to play games..
I grew up in a small village/town with no opportunities, I studied under trees or in huts, that is where our classrooms were..we never played any games..I kinda got into debating, quiz, essay writing competitions all intellectual stuff and did nothing physical to challenge my body..last few years here in US Iwas too busy working that never played any games much but for an occasional baseball game with folks at work which was a thrilling adventure for me..I realised that it is so so important and so much fun to play sports, games..I want my children to play sports, games..
cant even believe I got up this morning with my hands aching from my yesterdays bowling..that is how delicate I am..too bad..
I want to play cricket, basketball, tennis and hope I can do all that in this life..
playing sports is fun and is important..weekend wisdom..
what else
Most girlfriends I met this weekend all talked about their boyfriends or boys they are meeting except me..They all ask my advice and they all say I give great despite despite my lack of inexperience of having never dated a guy or never had any boyfriends ever in my life..
Some complained about mamas boys, some about irresponsible guys, some about guys who dont talk or are emotionally incapable of opening or talking..since some of my friends are american and some are indian, I realised one big thing this weekend after all those conversations on relationships..
Doesnot matter if the boy is american or indian problems are kinda the same..They all have same problems..
My advice to my girlfriend If ur boyfriend is a mamas boy, dont worry that much..if he loves his parents he will love u too, that shows he is capable of loving someone dearly...but make sure he respects and gives u importance too and listens to you. Guys dont realise the girl is leaving her family and comes into ur life to spend the rest of her life with you..so you need to give her importance as much or more than your mom or dad because she will do the same for you and will give you more importance than her mom or dad..
To me our parents are very important, I would give up my life for them..but I would also give up my life for the man I love..so it is like two eyes both are important, you cannot function without either..
our moms and dads are very important and we all need to take care of them and do our duties as good sons and daughters but it is also important that we need to fulfill our duties are husband or wife and built a new life together..moms and dads lived their life and their dreams, they need to give space for kids to live their life and their dreams..To all those interfering in laws, remember if u love ur daughter in law like ur daughter, she will give u ten times that love and take care of you..spread love..
my weekend wisdom to my friends..
One more friend talked about how guys dont call , they dont write emails, they dont respond emotionally..I think I experienced that too..I had guys who barely talked to me , barely wrote emails but wanted to marry me...I understand why my indian girlfriends are frustrated with indian guys..are they emotionally not that intelligent though most of them are very smart professionally..probably...
But I think we girls go with the intention that we want to marry, have kids ( yap like all my friends even I want that, cant wait to have kids) while I think boys dont want the same..I dont looking at my experiences I feel like indian boys look for chemistry and they think if they find a good looking girl or girl that is attractive to them, has a nice job and is a nice girl whom they feel will cook and take care of them they want to marry but they dont care to emotionally connect to them, they dont care to talk or build a relationship or write emails or make calls..
My advice to my friend if a guy has no time to write emails or call, dont give him that much importance, my philosophy is if u dont have time to spare or even write an email to me you wont have time for me even after marriage..If u dont call or make time to know me before marriage, u will never do that after marriage and u are only looking at superficial things about me. May be we girls should also learn to be cool like boys..be unattached, not return calls, not write emails back until the boys write I dont know there are no true solutions to that I guess.. I can never marry a guy with whom I dont have emotional connection, can never marry a guy who doesnot write emails to me often or cal me, can never marry a guy who does not have an emotional depth to him and does not open out to me and tell me all his problems or feelings the way I do..no way..so I couldnot tell my friend to ignore all that marry a guy who says yes even though he doesnot call or write..
Also since I went through two men who wanted dowry or money, it is hard to figure out what the true intentions of guys..I hope it is more than horoscopes, dowry,money, job or looking at me as a girl who has takes care of parents and would cook and clean for me too..yap I had that, the first guy I came close to marrying when my dad was dying told me he fell in love withme because he never a met a girl who does so much for her family unselfishly like me..but ofcourse in addition to that he wanted diamonds, rolex watches and money..
When I was young I thought marriages are so easy looking at all my elder cousins marry meeting guy for ten minutes..all arranged marriages..Living in america and having come close to marriage twice through arranged marriages and not choosing either to marry now I dont think todays marriages are easy specially for girls specially for indian girls living in US for a long time..
I dont what the solutions are..but all I pray I meet someone who is a nice never married person my age or a lil younger to me is also ok and reads crazily books like me and is a strict vegetarian and lived in US for a long long time and can laugh at seinfeld jokes and gets them..someone whom I cannot live without, as simple as that someone without whom I cannot live anymore..and I hope the man I marry also feels the same way..
anyways...
weekend wisdom, I get to know so much about relationships without really experiencing them..having girlfriends who are in and out of relationships helps understand boys and their ways better.
what else..
Iam busy with new projects at work.more new drug screens for more diseases...more and more work..
Iam busy being chair of lot of other stuff..like chairing picnic Iam planning for all Indians at work this sunday which Iam looking forward to,Iam running a bone marrow drive too there so hopefully it will go good... Iam also busy with other stuff...like chairing volunteer activities and organizing them.. going to be busy with a diwali event we are planning for ceos and all indians at work,big big event organization which is such a unlikely job for a scientist but since everyone thinks I have great organization skills Iam chairing it again...I think seeing my dad manage 500 employees somewhere down the way me and my sis picked up a lot of leadership skills...we both can manage 500 employees, we can address big crowds, inspire people, spread energy around..thanks to my dads genes and moms down to earth realistic outlook we both sisters got great ideals, values and skills...Iam glad my parents were very strict..
so my life looks all busy with my scientist job and all the other event organizing stuff..
as usual my personal life ofcourse suffers..no love..no marriage..no kids or boyfriends..life goes on..hopefully it will change someday..I guess the guy has to come looking for me, cant look anymore, god seems to be keeping me too busy with other stuff.
my personal life and love ,my novel to finish, my writing group work everything waits for some good inspired lucky day...God knows when that day will come..
I listened to this fav. kishore da after so long..probably the song carries some of my spirit..
yeh shaam mastani madhosh kiye jaa..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sZg4EUB3IM
what else..
I watched a cute vijay genelia tamil movie sachen..
I like genelia, she is an excellent actress with a fresh face..she is so much like me in this movie bommarillu..her character is so much like me super talkitive girl..
iam looking forward to seeing jaane tuna...imrankhan and genelia aamir khan movie, cant wait to see it..
books Iam reading..rather barely getting to read
punjabi century, audacity of hope,my revolutions..
news that interested ..
nothing in specific..sometimes I need more excting news to interest me..most of the news I read these days is expected.
week looks hectic with work...weekend looks hectic with picnic and all that jazz I need to organize and do..life goes on...
yesterday I went bowling for the first time in my life...First 4 times I just couldnt bowl at all..my ball was going sideways if I threw it with one hand, the ball was too heavy for my delicate hands..Then I tried bowling just using both my hands without holding the ball with my fingers..and then it started working...
it was wonderful to play games..
I grew up in a small village/town with no opportunities, I studied under trees or in huts, that is where our classrooms were..we never played any games..I kinda got into debating, quiz, essay writing competitions all intellectual stuff and did nothing physical to challenge my body..last few years here in US Iwas too busy working that never played any games much but for an occasional baseball game with folks at work which was a thrilling adventure for me..I realised that it is so so important and so much fun to play sports, games..I want my children to play sports, games..
cant even believe I got up this morning with my hands aching from my yesterdays bowling..that is how delicate I am..too bad..
I want to play cricket, basketball, tennis and hope I can do all that in this life..
playing sports is fun and is important..weekend wisdom..
what else
Most girlfriends I met this weekend all talked about their boyfriends or boys they are meeting except me..They all ask my advice and they all say I give great despite despite my lack of inexperience of having never dated a guy or never had any boyfriends ever in my life..
Some complained about mamas boys, some about irresponsible guys, some about guys who dont talk or are emotionally incapable of opening or talking..since some of my friends are american and some are indian, I realised one big thing this weekend after all those conversations on relationships..
Doesnot matter if the boy is american or indian problems are kinda the same..They all have same problems..
My advice to my girlfriend If ur boyfriend is a mamas boy, dont worry that much..if he loves his parents he will love u too, that shows he is capable of loving someone dearly...but make sure he respects and gives u importance too and listens to you. Guys dont realise the girl is leaving her family and comes into ur life to spend the rest of her life with you..so you need to give her importance as much or more than your mom or dad because she will do the same for you and will give you more importance than her mom or dad..
To me our parents are very important, I would give up my life for them..but I would also give up my life for the man I love..so it is like two eyes both are important, you cannot function without either..
our moms and dads are very important and we all need to take care of them and do our duties as good sons and daughters but it is also important that we need to fulfill our duties are husband or wife and built a new life together..moms and dads lived their life and their dreams, they need to give space for kids to live their life and their dreams..To all those interfering in laws, remember if u love ur daughter in law like ur daughter, she will give u ten times that love and take care of you..spread love..
my weekend wisdom to my friends..
One more friend talked about how guys dont call , they dont write emails, they dont respond emotionally..I think I experienced that too..I had guys who barely talked to me , barely wrote emails but wanted to marry me...I understand why my indian girlfriends are frustrated with indian guys..are they emotionally not that intelligent though most of them are very smart professionally..probably...
But I think we girls go with the intention that we want to marry, have kids ( yap like all my friends even I want that, cant wait to have kids) while I think boys dont want the same..I dont looking at my experiences I feel like indian boys look for chemistry and they think if they find a good looking girl or girl that is attractive to them, has a nice job and is a nice girl whom they feel will cook and take care of them they want to marry but they dont care to emotionally connect to them, they dont care to talk or build a relationship or write emails or make calls..
My advice to my friend if a guy has no time to write emails or call, dont give him that much importance, my philosophy is if u dont have time to spare or even write an email to me you wont have time for me even after marriage..If u dont call or make time to know me before marriage, u will never do that after marriage and u are only looking at superficial things about me. May be we girls should also learn to be cool like boys..be unattached, not return calls, not write emails back until the boys write I dont know there are no true solutions to that I guess.. I can never marry a guy with whom I dont have emotional connection, can never marry a guy who doesnot write emails to me often or cal me, can never marry a guy who does not have an emotional depth to him and does not open out to me and tell me all his problems or feelings the way I do..no way..so I couldnot tell my friend to ignore all that marry a guy who says yes even though he doesnot call or write..
Also since I went through two men who wanted dowry or money, it is hard to figure out what the true intentions of guys..I hope it is more than horoscopes, dowry,money, job or looking at me as a girl who has takes care of parents and would cook and clean for me too..yap I had that, the first guy I came close to marrying when my dad was dying told me he fell in love withme because he never a met a girl who does so much for her family unselfishly like me..but ofcourse in addition to that he wanted diamonds, rolex watches and money..
When I was young I thought marriages are so easy looking at all my elder cousins marry meeting guy for ten minutes..all arranged marriages..Living in america and having come close to marriage twice through arranged marriages and not choosing either to marry now I dont think todays marriages are easy specially for girls specially for indian girls living in US for a long time..
I dont what the solutions are..but all I pray I meet someone who is a nice never married person my age or a lil younger to me is also ok and reads crazily books like me and is a strict vegetarian and lived in US for a long long time and can laugh at seinfeld jokes and gets them..someone whom I cannot live without, as simple as that someone without whom I cannot live anymore..and I hope the man I marry also feels the same way..
anyways...
weekend wisdom, I get to know so much about relationships without really experiencing them..having girlfriends who are in and out of relationships helps understand boys and their ways better.
what else..
Iam busy with new projects at work.more new drug screens for more diseases...more and more work..
Iam busy being chair of lot of other stuff..like chairing picnic Iam planning for all Indians at work this sunday which Iam looking forward to,Iam running a bone marrow drive too there so hopefully it will go good... Iam also busy with other stuff...like chairing volunteer activities and organizing them.. going to be busy with a diwali event we are planning for ceos and all indians at work,big big event organization which is such a unlikely job for a scientist but since everyone thinks I have great organization skills Iam chairing it again...I think seeing my dad manage 500 employees somewhere down the way me and my sis picked up a lot of leadership skills...we both can manage 500 employees, we can address big crowds, inspire people, spread energy around..thanks to my dads genes and moms down to earth realistic outlook we both sisters got great ideals, values and skills...Iam glad my parents were very strict..
so my life looks all busy with my scientist job and all the other event organizing stuff..
as usual my personal life ofcourse suffers..no love..no marriage..no kids or boyfriends..life goes on..hopefully it will change someday..I guess the guy has to come looking for me, cant look anymore, god seems to be keeping me too busy with other stuff.
my personal life and love ,my novel to finish, my writing group work everything waits for some good inspired lucky day...God knows when that day will come..
I listened to this fav. kishore da after so long..probably the song carries some of my spirit..
yeh shaam mastani madhosh kiye jaa..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sZg4EUB3IM
what else..
I watched a cute vijay genelia tamil movie sachen..
I like genelia, she is an excellent actress with a fresh face..she is so much like me in this movie bommarillu..her character is so much like me super talkitive girl..
iam looking forward to seeing jaane tuna...imrankhan and genelia aamir khan movie, cant wait to see it..
books Iam reading..rather barely getting to read
punjabi century, audacity of hope,my revolutions..
news that interested ..
nothing in specific..sometimes I need more excting news to interest me..most of the news I read these days is expected.
week looks hectic with work...weekend looks hectic with picnic and all that jazz I need to organize and do..life goes on...
Saturday, July 5, 2008
Independence day, shopping, recipes, this and that..
independence day celebrations at the canal..some soft jazz some fast songs it was fun to watch adults and kids dance to the songs at the canal. then watched lovely fireworks with friends..
And then Independence day sales and shopping.. I generally dont like shopping unlike most girls..But today I did find some cool trendy clothes and bought clothes which are not my usual style..
green top with puffy hands
A puffy red top( which reminded me of seinfelds puffy T shirt)..but me and my best friend A both bought the same red color same design top so that we can wear them together..thats what happens when two girls and best friends shop together..
And surprise of all is I bought a cute body hugging salsa dress short slightly low neck silky smooth dress..not my style but my best friend who is an all american girl insisted every girl should have one such a short cute salsa dress , so I bought and wore it..and it was on sale I got it for less than 15 dollars..good sale right..
My Independence day weekend did not go as expected..
No boston, No maimi beach nothing..
Just staying in Indy and hung out with girlfriends..
went for a concert and watched fireworks on friday with girlfriends.
went for a nice indian lunch with a girlfriend and went shopping with another girlfriend after that..
tomorrow bowling and games with a whole bunch of girlfriends and a nice dinner..
Books Iam reading:
"Punjabi century" by Tandon which is an amazing account of punjabi culture life in 1850s , a unique learning experience for me. Iam thoroughly enjoying reading this historical book. It is so much fun to learn abut how our ancestors lived..unique family values..such a vibrant culture.
Iam also reading " My revolutions" by Hari Kunzru..this novel is not as good as The Impressionist but it is better than his second novel...Its about a man who hides his past and how his past comes back to him..Its about struggles of idealistic youth..Iam enjoying reading it.
Iam also reading slowly obamas "audacity of hope". It is another good obamas book. The man knows how to write, no wonder he is powerful speaker..How he sees america, his thoughts on various issues, his experiences volunteering at poor neighbourhood, his family life..It is amazing how honest this man is,how much he respects his wife, his struggles as a father..on the whole a honest book worth reading for those of you who can vote, but I liked his first book better "Dreams from my father"
Movies I watched
Some tamil movie of surya and trisha
and lot of TV, so you think u can dance..I love that show..If u are a fan of dancing, specially creative dancing mixing styles you need to watch this show so u think u can dance on fox.
Good food I ate
Bombay thali...my fav. paneer masala..
And home made dosa which I made at home with spicy groundnut chutney I made and idli chutney
Recipe :
dosa: soak two cups of rice and one cup of urad daal and half cup of flattened rice..grind them. add a lil bit of milk before making dosa..take oil and mix it with a lil bit of ghee..add it to the heated pan and then just make dosa..tastes like dosa at udipi or dosa in a indian restaurant in india.
Chutneys:
groundnut chutney: fry onions and lil bit of green chillies to light brown, fry groundnuts a lil bit and remove the peel. I would put equal amount of onions and groundnut 1:1 ratio...Then grind them together with green chillies, a pinch of tamarind, a lil bit of salt..this makes the chutney one spicy chutney..key is to add lil salt, a lil bit of tamarind..
Idli chutney: take chana daal, take deep frozen fresh grated coconut, a lil bit of dahi and green chillies and salt , grin them..then add kari patta, mustardseed choka..sour and spicy chutney..
what else..
news that interested me
obamas political campaigning..looks like he is touring republican states..may be he will turn them democratic..interesting campaigning strategy..he is also trying to support religious faith based people by giving more religious talks..he wants to win and he wants to pull everyone together it shows..
music I listened to on you tube
ke sara sara madhuri dixit song which carries my essential romantic outlook, sensual beta madhuri dixit song, atifs race song pahle nazar which is a haunting song..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TEI2QAFE7rE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-yk-xXo6pY&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-yk-xXo6pY&feature=related
nite looks young..
all I want to do is watch a nice hindi movie and read a book, sleep late, wake up late and laze around...Iam so looking forward to bowling with a whole bunch of my girlfriends tomorrow evening..my kinda perfect vacation...
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