This evening my best friend A called me to tell me her grandma passed away..
I lost my own grandparents on both sides when I was very young..my dads father passed away when I was 2 yrs old..my moms mother passed away when I was 4yrs old..my moms father passed away when I was 7yrs old..
I lost my dads mom nani/mamma as we used to call her when I was 13 yrs old. .I missed her for a year a lot..I could not eat or sleep well..she was the only grandparent I knew..she was kind, would listen to my childish stories, I would sleep in her with her all the time and she was my best friend in my school days..my sister used to beat me up a lot and grandma always came up to protect me..she had a soft corner for me as I was thin, weak and soft spoken..wherever she went she took me with her..it was so much fun..when she passed away it took me a long time to forget her and get over her loss..
Iam glad I grew up with grandparents living with us in the same house..I hope my kids will also grow up grandparents living in the same house with us..I already lost my dad and my kids would never see their grandpa and it makes me very very sad..my dad would have been a super grandpa..he was a supergrandpa for my sisters kids..I like big families, kids growing up with grandparents, everyone living together..that way Iam old fashioned..I love big families..I miss that here living by myself in US..
In my adult life I had no one to call grandma..
so when A became my friend she knew that and she was kind enough to share her grandma with me..A is blond all american girl and her grandma was also an all american lady and was ninety years old..I was so amazed to see her the first time I met her..she was elegant, fashionable in a nice short skirt, blondish white hair well combed, elegant jewellary driving her own car, so independent, so smart, so soft spoken and so patient for her age..
She tried to understand my accent, hugged me and we became friends..I asked her if I can call her granny and she said she is very happy to have a indian grandchild..
Everytime I met her she was always dressed well like a lady in these old world movies of audrey hepburn, slim, tall elegant, well dressed, independent 90 year old granny who lived by herself until today..she will always inspire me to be independent even when I would grow old like her..
I used to call her granny and loved calling someone granny..it was so special for me to use that word granny again in my life..
A, her mom and her granny..three generation of women and me used to go for movies once in a while. A and me would think a lot and pick up the right movie for granny..she had a hard time watching new movies..she was all old world lady and reminded me of conservative polite grandmas and old aunts in India..so me and A would pick up really conservative old world movies for her or cartoon movies which were all PG and neat..she loved ratouville a lot..we took her to this will farrell movie Blades of glory and granny was shocked seeing the movie..I would meet for christmas and thanksgiving dinners at A 's parents place and last time I met granny was for her birthday...
I gave granny a small cake, flowers and a card..the cake had a smiley face on it with just one candle and granny said she loved the smiley face and kept on smiling the whole evening..it was wonderful to see her smile..
A and me were waiting for winter to get over as granny cannot take cold and were planning to take granny for a movie and dinner in summer...I wanted to invite granny home or take her to an Indian restaurant once but since granny never tried indian food I was scared and so was A.
I lit a candle for granny tonite..hope the candle lights her way to heaven..
I would miss calling her granny..now I dont have anyone to call granny and I will miss that and miss her a lot..
I cannot thank A enough for sharing her granny with me and giving me memories of an american grandma I would never would have had..
thanks to my american grandma for giving me sweet memories ...
god bless her soul..
